When I actually saw this prompt for this week, I couldn't help the rich laughter I had. I called it rich because the memories were priceless. The Dad vs. Boyfriend prompt brought back memories.
So the whole story started when I was just 15 years old. I was really neutral about dating, but I was also very naive, but not so naive that I couldn't tell what was right or wrong. So I used to attend a mixed school—you know, both boys and girls.
Why this is super funny is because this had taken place on Valentine's Day. So there was this little boy back then that was in my case; his dad happens to be a politician, and back then you knew rich people when you saw them. The funniest part was that he was a Muslim; his name was Abdullahi. He was very cute, but as I said earlier, I was neutral about relationships, so I gave a lot of mixed signals. Maybe today I'm cool with it, then tomorrow I'm not into it. So let's just say Abdullahi was dating himself a great deal.
So Valentine's Day came, and he deserves to surprise me. Not in school, mind you, but he found my house the best place to do the surprise, and boom, it backfired. My dad was at home that day, me and my mom went to the market, and on our way back, we saw police or the cops car in front of our house. It wasn't as funny as I'm laughing right now; the poor boy was begging for his life. I don't even know what influenced him to come to my house all in the name of a valentine surprise. My dad surprised him with a very resounding slap, and he was arrested.
When I was asked if I knew, straight forth, I denied him, because I never, in fact, warned him about coming to my house. That's how relationships or situations ended. I heard his dad had to bail him out. I don't know what happened to him with his parents, but all I knew was that the next few weeks he didn't talk to me, and I didn't talk to him, and like magic, he was taken to a boarding school. From that day on, no boy, guy, dude, or even man dared come close to me. My dad was a military personnel, so whenever they recruited new soldiers, they all got informed about the event, and if you were planning to make a move, just know your life was on the line too.
Till I left where I was living, they always addressed me as “that military man's daughter.". Now people knew my dad was a very strict man, so that was a free pass for me.
I think the reason why parents, or dads, are especially overprotective and strict when it comes to their daughters is because:
• They always see men as potential threats to their daughters, no matter their age, size, or even height. They don't want to be seen as irresponsible, and they want their daughters to be protected from the evil thoughts of men. That's why you see the father-daughter bond relationship getting thicker and stronger. You see, some mothers often complain about how the dad is always spoiling their daughters. Well, from my opinion, I think they spoil their daughters with an intention. If their daughter goes out and strangers or suitors are trying to entice her with gifts, in the back of those girls minds, they have gotten better gifts because why? Their dad provides for them.
° Another point is past experiences, yes! Dads can be protective because they are too scared that their lifestyle back then could repeat itself as karma for their daughters; they don't want a stranger doing to their daughters what they did to someone's daughter. The irony is there.
• Anything is the reputation of the family; if a daughter brings forth disgrace instead of grace and increases in the family, that becomes an issue. Some dads are so protective over some greedy intentions; maybe he's marrying off and your virgin cost a fortune, or there are some ungodly acts he's playing on his daughters. So we have that protection where the girl child feels safe and protected correctly. And we have those protections with ill intentions.
So in my case, my dad was looking out for me, and now that I'm older, they are already talking about marriage, which is very funny because back then it was no to a boyfriend, but now they all want me to bring a husband.😂😂
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