Inside Authenticity

Look into my eyes and hear what I'm not saying, for my eyes speak louder than my voice ever will... – Unknown

Everybody has their personal “preference” when it comes to the physical attraction towards another. Some like legs, some butts, some lips and some like it all. For me, it has always been eyes. Ok, I have a SERIOUS weakness for a nice meaty pair of thighs on a man too… but hey… (It must be the South African Rugby influence of my family stepping in there… haha!)

Eyes, without the assistance of the mouth, are GREAT story tellers and “connectors” – the best in fact… because they don’t do pretension, they don’t do fake and they do not know how to lie. They simply tell you everything precisely as it is… which is exactly, the way it should be.

“Almost nothing need be said when you have eyes.” ― Tarjei Vesaas, The Boat in the Evening

I have always been a lover of “studying people” – yes, I was one of those individuals that never really grasped the whole “staring is rude” life lesson, but I do at least try to be discreet about it these days… Through this passion of studying people on both a physical, emotional and energetic level I have learnt to read deeply into people, whether it is from a photograph or in person.

This is precisely why I find eyes so utterly attractive. The person I am looking at needn’t say a word and I will have an entire conversation with them simply through one locked engagement. One glance and I will know precisely what mood they are in or if something is troubling them.

People do not always have the courage to say “out loud” what they are thinking, feeling or experiencing internally. Eyes allow them the freedom of expressing themselves in a silent but very poignant manner.

The only unfortunate thing in that is that many people do not pay enough attention, to even pick it up. In many respects I have often struggled intimately with partners because I crave a connection that many are afraid to give. Yes, there is great sensuality in physical touch when being intimate with someone, but couple it with fixated eye contact and you have the ultimate recipe - It transforms an ordinary sexual encounter into a completely energetically euphoric one. I simply don’t see how it gets better than that?!

Every single one of us connects with people on a random and face value level every single day – all day… again and again… I want more than that from the people that I cross paths with. I want to look beyond the skin, beyond the smiles and the worthless pleasantries. I want to see their soul. I want to know what makes them tick. I want to know who they REALLY are! That’s the person I want to connect with. The AUTHENTIC individual!