Even if you have dated once in your life, you would know the confusion of going for him or not. You might ask your friends ‘how do I know if he is the right one for me’? The truth of the matter is, you don’t need to ask anyone what kind of a person is best suited for you. The answer lies within you.
If you are a girl with princess syndrome, loves to throw tantrums and focuses more on beauty then you are most likely to attract a boy. However, if empowerment, self-accountability, care to make a difference and intelligence rather beauty are your priorities only then you are going to get a real man.
When you give all your heart and life to someone, it is quite natural to expect some in return. You have to play this game carefully and not let any unworthy person rule over you. Getting respect in return is your basic right and only a man can give that.
Here are a few clues you can have to identity who you really are dating.
You can identify who you are dating at this point even in your first meet-up. A boy will rush towards you if you are a pretty lady and start talking to impress you with his ‘talk’. Once you start responding back, sharing your smart ideas you will see an uncomfortable air on his face.
A man, on the other hand, will be impressed more by your intelligence, your ideas rather your body. He would appreciate your smart mind and would not show any sign of wanting intimacy.
The most difficult part for a boy on a date is to confront serious talk. He would prefer to ignore it or give sweeping statements like an irresponsible child. A man, however, is always ready to face any kind of uncomfortable situation and handles is with decency.
A friend in need is a friend indeed
is equally applicable to your date. If he makes excuses in times of crisis, he simply means that he is not into a serious relation with you. A boy will always leave you alone during your challenging time. Whereas a man will stay with you as your shield, a support. He would rather give you emotional strength to give you empowerment to face the challenge.
A man is never afraid to pay the price of honesty. He always sticks to the principals and be completely honest no matter what. He does not know whether you will embrace his honesty or hate him for it, he stays honest anyway. Honesty is the most valuable part of a man’s character.
On the contrary, a boy will neither confront your truth nor speak his. He would find it difficult to open up with you for his masculinity and strength will shatter.
Submission is the very first thing love does to you and if it is healthy, it becomes beautiful. But if it’s enforced, it turns ugly. There are a lot of things couples dislike in each other but forcing your opinion on someone while not giving an ear to there is rather a sick behavior.
A real man will never want you to change your ideals for him. He will rather cherish you for having your own ideals. A boy would make you feel you are not good enough. Be it as personal as a way of dressing or things that make you happy, he will ask you to adopt things he likes because he is concerned about his pleasure only.
A man with self-accountability will always take some time out to ponder upon what kind of man he is and what he should be. He admits his mistakes to make the relation healthier. A boy has no moral compass. He has not developed the sense of accountability so he is never responsible for his actions or words.
Only a real man can admit his mistakes and promise to make things better. A boy will never confess his mistakes rather play the blame game with you.
Since you have a few clues now, hopefully you can choose a better date for yourself. Remember, if you like to have a man around, you have to make yourself worth him first. A girl will get a boy, a woman will get a man. Decide who you are!
