We all have an engine that drives us forward...

‎Today I come not to develop a theory, but to honor and thank those who work with passion, find meaning in what they do and give their best every day. There are moments when we feel that we are moving forward and, suddenly, two forces collide within one. We want to leave and at the same time we stay. We want to talk and fear closes our throats.

We must learn to move in the brief space that opens up between them, between fear and time. It is like a map of the unconscious, of family wounds and of what we need to remember in order not to disappear.

Because what belongs to everyone, almost always belongs to no one. For example, in common spaces what we call “everyone's” often ends up being no one's responsibility...

This is especially revealed when it comes to taking on mistakes or unattractive tasks. The most common thing is that everyone joins in to receive the fruits of an achievement, but how many people assume to step up when a problem happens? That is, one part pushes and the other brakes. We cannot eliminate one of the sides.

We all have a motive, an engine that makes us keep going even in the most difficult moments, and even if we have no control over our circumstances, we can still choose what attitude to have in front of them.

The moment something went wrong, “everyone” comes in to dilute responsibility, and this is a harmful practice, which not only erases you as a subject but also stagnates you in a mindset of mediocrity.

As someone who has had the responsibility of leading teams, I assure you that I value much more those people who are able to step up and assume a mistake, than those who seek to “pass crouched down” and only appear when things go well, lol it happens often. Because being there to celebrate is something that almost anyone does, but very few are the ones who come forward in difficult moments... Yes, I will know... I prefer to value that person who does not hide, who assumes and seeks to learn. But at the same time, it is important in groups, teams, families and others to clearly distribute what is up to everyone, minimizing the space of what we call common sense and that always ends up showing that it is less obvious than we think.

Before complaining about the lack of time, let's review what we prioritize in our lives. Even when we feel that our projects are on pause, we keep moving forward in our own evolution. Let's not give up and never forget to be grateful for the present we are building.

In the coming days I will share a series of reflections in other publications about something that I consider fundamental, such as being clear that before having connections with others, we are our own connection. And that relationship with ourselves also transforms the way we lead, work and build connection or union between people.
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Janitze.🌷