The couples turned off and...

We go into ice mode, sexually, if we are emotionally disappointed, because we are not respected, taken care of, listened to.

Many times the choice of partner is not so simple, so easy, I say this because many times who is supposed to have a good character, shows over the years his darkest aspects those that were not seen or appeared at the beginning of the couple's relationship.

For many, these dates like February 14th confront them with a harmony and joy that was obligatory, something like we must be in a corset, in which we all think and feel the same always, when as I told you one day: if there is any constant in Life, it is the change of deciding with whom and how to spend these days that in our Hispanic American culture is what predominates. And even if it is the predominant thing, there are always those who do not believe the same thing as you believe, those who do not believe in love and people who do not even wonder what they believe or not, simply the flock goes one way and let's go!!! we're all going there.

Love does not live in big promises, it lives in daily consideration; in listening, in responding, in making decisions thinking about the other, in holding even the uncomfortable. Consistency: saying little and always demonstrating…

Dialogue is the best way to resolve conflicts. That is why it is better to cultivate the non-offensive use of language and honesty is the best route of conflict prevention when we learn to resist adversity, without being submissive, without staying in the complaint, but going out to surf that wave to get where we want.

Building a bond is always going to require embracing what we don't want to see, for example "our shadow", those unconscious thoughts that break into the bond. And many years of peace may pass, but there always comes some challenge such as motherhood or fatherhood that tests our maturity, the ability to bear difficulties with serenity and find valid solutions for both of us.

At the end of the day, what sums up the life of a man or a woman, are the decisions, good or bad, let it be the determination who speaks for us because
frustration is inevitable, but the suffering derived from it is optional, it is our decision.

Learning to regulate our reactions is the greatest act of self-love we can exercise, because it frees us from the role of victims and gives us back the power to be the architects of our own evolution. And to have better health in general when we design a positive mental dynamic. It seems stoic philosophy "we are energy" and the satisfaction of saying "I made this from scratch" is the best antidote to the existential vacuum.

Janitze. 🌹