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Once you had someone, so sweet, they made you feel special, like you were the only person that mattered in the world, you fell deeply in love, the more you spend time with them, the deeper you fall in love and the more you want to be with them, they made you feel so happy, happier than you thought was possible, it was beautiful, a fairytale; you believed you were meant to be together and you will be together forever, but lately, things has been changing, he/she doesn’t call as much as they used to, they always seem to be too busy to talk or spend time with you, there’s always something more important for them to do, this breaks your heart but you hold on because in your heart you can’t comprehend how something so good could go so bad, you wait, you second guess but it seems the more you are trying to hold on, the farther away your partner is drifting, and finally two beautiful souls that once brought each other so much love and happiness becomes strangers. Sound familiar?
If you have been in this situation before, you know it sucks, it’s terrible but the truth is not all relationships will stand the test of time, not all relationships will make it through till death do you apart so if you find yourself in this position where it seems like the sun will never come up again, I need you to know that’s not true, here’s a tested and trusted methods to help you overcome a heartbreak
1. DISTANCE YOURSELF
Getting over someone you love so much is not easy to do, it’s even harder when you keep seeing them all the time especially when the wound of your broken heart is still fresh, this will make it difficult for you to focus on other positive areas in your life, you will only dwell on what’s hurting you, thus making it hard to move on. Social media is also a culprit that makes distancing yourself difficult, don’t be that ex that creeps on your ex’s wall to know what your ex has been up to and who he/she is dating now, that information will only hurt you more and make it hard for you to move on, so unfollow him or her on social media if it’s necessary for your own peace of mind.
2. GIVE IT TIME
They say time heals almost everything and time kills everything, give it time, don’t rush yourself, it’s okay to break down and cry and feel sad or hopeless as long as you gradually find your way up again, speaking about crying, check out number three
3. IT’S OKAY TO CRY
Crying can be a good way to cleanse the soul and clear the mind, so if the water work comes on don’t sweat it, cry it all out, let your sorrow and disappointment flow with your tears, cry till you can’t cry anymore and when you are done, take a deep breath and let it all go
4. GET PHYSICAL
Not all of us are athletic but after a breakup, it’s always nice to try working out your physical self if you are not doing that already, no matter how little you do, it all counts, you can start small with some walking or running, meditating or some other yoga practices, this has been proven to build self-confidence, which will help you feel good about yourself and the more you feel good about yourself, the easier it is for you to let go of what hurt you and accept that you are good enough and deserve to be happy again
5. GET BUSY
It might be an abandoned project or a business or career you put on hold, this is a great time to pick it up and give it your all, if you are already working on something, work harder, being successful in other areas of your life would make a huge difference
6. SPEND MORE TIME WITH YOURSELF
This might sound strange but it’s a thing, yep it is, and here’s why, sometimes in relationships, we love our partners so much that they become the center of our existence, we are only concerned about them, their likes, their dislikes, their dreams, their goals, their needs so much that we forget our own, we forget we also need these things as well, now being single, this is a good time to reconnect with yourself again, in a stronger way this time so you never lose touch again
7. ADMIRE YOURSELF MORE
Take pride in who you are and what you have been through, look at yourself like a survivor that deserves some accolades, let that be what you see when you look in the mirror, smile to yourself and tell yourself you love you!
