For me it sounds like something impossible because we exist in a world that keeps demanding more work, more effort, more communication, and so on. Currently people measure love by what they see and how you demonstrate love to them. People feel now that if you are not spending on them, that means you don’t love them. This can make love heavy and complicated, and love will start feeling crowded. It is hard for us to understand that we don’t really need to put in much when it comes to love.
Seeing this prompt, I am thinking about this love from a different perspective. I get to realise that love is not about doing more or giving more; rather, it is about deleting things that don’t belong. Relationships these days look like performances. The world we are into made it look like that. If you are not putting in effort in your relationship, that means you are not doing it well. Most of ours are not living the best of lives because we are living to shape ourselves into our partner's lifestyle, which is bad, but growth grows in trust and truth. They should see you for who you are and not what you think you should be.
The sweetest part of love comes with fewer expectations. It is not bad to expect something from someone, but it becomes harmful the moment it becomes unspoken. At that point, we expect people to read our minds and behave in a way that will mirror our own lives, and they are being shadows of themselves. But simplifying love means you will allow people to be themselves instead of who you want them to be; you will find yourself appreciating them rather than feeling disappointed in them.
Relationships don’t need to be noisy, especially in our social circles. Every connection doesn't need to be deep; we don’t need to hold on to too many people. You don’t need to crowd yourself with people or try to please someone, but if your circle is small, your attention becomes smart; you get to understand yourself more. That will help to build your relationship stronger and not weaker.
Less doesn’t make love smaller; rather, it makes it clearer. When we have fewer expectations and less pressure, we will realise that relationship is sweet. We will be honest and more grounded; you start noticing the little things we ignored. I always tell people that the fact you choose to simplify your love doesn’t mean lowering standards or caring less; it will help you to focus on things that really matter and let go of things that are not important. It means picking honesty over perfection and presence over performance.
Finally, love that less often gives more joy and peace of mind is given, but we keep neglecting it and pushing shadows.
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This is my entry on the weekly prompts #minimalist.
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