"Good For You"

A positive word tilted on its side, such as "Good", coated with a hint of sarcasm, to basically say, "So, What?.
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There are certain situations that people seem to seek drama.

Why?

The motivation tends to be people wanting to be relevant, important, recognised and included.

Depending on your motives, you can play on it, profit from it, or, at times, don't respond to it (which can have a reverse, but equally entertaining effect).

The most easiest way to respond, if a response is necessary, is just to smile and say;

"Good for you".

To work through all the permutations and combinations as to try to get consensus is futile when dealing with people who have already made up their mind on what reality is to them.

Having your reality bubble popped disrupts momentum.

As can be seen in history, especially in warfare, that at some point the decision is made to act, that action has horrendous results but it is then wrapped up in "understanding" until the next "history repeating itself".

Individuals, countries, corporations are all prone to group think.

Group Think is the practice of thinking or making decisions as a group, resulting typically in unchallenged, poor-quality decision-making.

When you are inside the group, the inclusiveness means that you're likely to receive all the benefits and none of the backwash of those not included.

Why does it bug me so?
I've been doing some eye-rolling of late as some groups I am part of make a statement at the expense of others in the group.

Some members are having a close relationship of commonality and sharing of back patting.
I'm all for their creating a "small group within a group". It doesn't phase me in the slightest.

However, one of the group meetings, we had a key person who was not going to attend and so the normal activities would be put on hold. If you wanted to attend, then those that attended could do something else.
Seems reasonable to me.

I decided not to attend as I had something else to do. I didn't communicate my (not) attendance as it has never been a requirement before.

A response this week was;

"We had 2 No call, no show's which was VERY disappointing..."

I get it. They would have like to be told. It shouldn't have held anything up but may have been a personal affront to the person who was going to organise something else.

Now, they're trying to dictate a certain decorum which I also don't mind.
What I do mind is the wording, broadcast to all, that a wrong had been done.

I'm loathe to respond and even more realising that there is no rapport with this group.

Where is the joking, rib poking, call me a prick - why so serious?

Do I work on the relationship with some of the individuals? I'm realising that I'm being a little bit overstretched and cannot really invest time into this group anymore.

I really thought I had more time when I first agreed. I'd feel a little bit bad to walk away.

Just Walk Away