When Kindness is Met with Ingratitude !!!

Hey Everyone, I hope you are all fine and doing great. Hey Everyone, I hope you are all fine and doing great. This Post is my entry to Weekly Featured Content in the #Hivelearners community. Today's topic to write about is The Un-Favoured.

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Starting this post with a Special quote from Publilius Syrus

Why this quote? because It suits exactly the situation I'm going to write in this post.

Kindness is a Virtue, I Have been hearing this from my forefathers, also my mother taught me to be kind to everyone. This is the reason My heart always melts when I see someone in need.

But sometimes your kindness can be harmful not just financially but also mentally. It leaves a dark spot on your heart that sometimes you start thinking that you should not have helped that person.

Situations like this appeared in my life many times. I am going to mention two here. I'm not going to mention my friend's name but yes, I am going to narrate the situation.

Situation 1

This happened almost 3 years ago, at that time I was in a very stable financial condition. One of my friends was in hard condition. I had the opportunity for him to earn the money. I called him and asked him to come to me and we will discuss the opportunity.

At that time, that opportunity for him to make money was costing me around 1000$. I did it out of kindness and spent 1000$ without even thinking the second time.

He said he would pay me 1000$ from the earnings he was going to make from the opportunity I had given to him. I agreed.

Times passed and he started earning from that opportunity but he started spending that earnings to fill his needs.

I ignored this thing and thought, he would give me my money when he shall get ease from his personal needs. I tried to understand the situation and never mentioned or demanded money In our meetups for two years.

Now three years have passed and to date, He owes me that money and doesn't even talk about it. This thing broke my heart, and from now on I'm not going to help him financially ever again in my life. Trust has been broken.

I even asked him twice and demanded the money after 2 years, but he kept ignoring me and saying he didn't have money to repay me.

The second situation happened around 2 years ago.

Situation 2

One of my friends reached me and told me the marriage of his brother is planned for the next month and he might need some money from me on this occasion and he will repay me in a year.

This time the money was around 350$, I got agreed and gave him the money as his need was real. The time to repay the money was 1 year.

I waited for the whole year and then I asked him about the money as things turned out for me as I was in need also. I was asking for my own money and to be very honest I don't like to ask anyone for anything even if that thing belongs to me.

It hurts me deeply to even think of asking others about anything. I am very hesitant to do so. I only ask my ALLAH ALMIGHTY. He is the only one to whom I go and ask without any hesitation.

My money is useless for me if I can't use them in my time of need.

I am going through the hardest time of my life but still, those guys haven't returned my money.

I am in contact with them and we do meet sometimes but now I have stopped asking them about the money as I feel embarrassed to ask.

The other reason that I don't ask about my money is that there is something in my mind and my heart that they will feel shame and I don't want to hurt anyone's feelings :)