Broken promise and the impact

Promise means giving the word/commitment to others for doing any particular task/thing/action. To be honest, defining the exact meaning of promise is very difficult to explain, at least for me, as I don’t have suitable words for it. But I believe that everyone knows well what it means by promise, even if it’s hard to explain. Making promises is very easy, and anyone can make promises. Some people make promises to be kept, while others make fake promises without having the intention of keeping them. Again, there are some promises people want to keep, but situations and life struggles force them to break promises. Breaking promises is not a crime, but it’s not a good thing from an ethical perspective.

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Breaking a promise is equal to breaking the trust of someone. Before breaking a promise, one needs to think seriously because gaining someone’s trust is difficult, and regaining trust after breaking a promise is hardly possible. Depending on the promise, we may hate others also if they break any promise. Promises should not be taken lightly unless one is serious and intentional about keeping the promise.

I am a very serious person when it comes to making a promise to others. To be honest, I don’t make promises to anyone unless it’s necessary, and that means in rare cases, I make any promise. That’s because I feel keeping promises and taking responsibility are the same, and as long as I can avoid taking responsibility, I try my best to avoid it. It’s because I try to escape from any kind of pressure, and I don’t feel bad or guilty about it.

As I said, I rarely promise anyone, and so the chances of breaking a promise in my case are very little. Sometimes I feel like I am a saint (just kidding). Maybe there are many, but not so significant to remember. After thinking deeply about it, I am able to remember a promise that I broke. It was approximately 6 years ago. I don’t do any job, but I do tuition (as a private tutor) for earning. At that time, one of my relatives asked me to teach his son. They offered me a handsome salary each month, and I promised to teach or take care of studies till the SSC exam, which means I promised to teach there at least one year. Everything was ok, but in that time my family came to the city, and naturally I stayed with my family rather than staying in the mess. From my flat to the relative’s family was a little far, and it would cost me more than one hour to reach, and that means I would lose 2 hours in vehicles, and it’s time-consuming. So, I told them about my problem, and I stopped teaching their kids. They offered me a salary increase, but I thought it was not worthy compared to the time. They didn’t want me to leave, but I was also at a disadvantage, and I couldn't afford to waste so much time just on tuition. So, for my betterment, I choose to break the promise, and I apologize to them and make them understand why I couldn’t continue it. Later, as compensation, I helped them to find a good teacher to teach their kid.

Let’s talk about someone breaking a promise to me. There are some people who have done the same thing in different ways, but I want to share the last one. It was approximately one year ago. In that time, I almost finished writing my research paper, but I needed to discuss it with my supervisor. I was supposed to pay a visit to my supervisor on a specific day, but one of my friends asked me to help him with his research, and he promised me to go after the day together. I agreed with him, and the whole day I was busy helping him. Both of us were tired. So, he delayed the meeting day with the supervisor, and I agreed with him. But do you know what he has done? He met the supervisor before the date he promised to me, and my supervisor asked me why I didn’t go to meet him. The supervisor scolded me, saying I was delayed for no reason. I was delayed because of it, and I helped him to complete his research paper, and he promised to meet with the supervisor together. But he broke his promise, and I was unaware of it. When I asked him why he did such a thing, he said he forgot about it, and he didn’t apologize for it. I was angry because of his behavior, and after that, slowly, I reduced my communication with him, as he had done some similar things earlier also. I can’t keep a friendship with a betrayer.