Falling in love is a beautiful feeling and a person who find s true love is considered very lucky. However, falling in love is not a child's play, and some people tend to fall in love every now and then at the wrong time or with the wrong person.Sometimes the other person does not feel that way about them or does not feel as strongly, causing the former to feel rejected.It is necessary to avoid such situations or falling into a ''situationship'' as the pain can affect a persons mental health and even output at work.
On another note, it might be a break up. This can be painful especially when one party is till in love with the other. The healing process can take a while and it is advisable not to have a rebound while this is happening.
Here in are few tips for staying out of the reach of cupid's arrows till you feel you are ready for love.
Go off the track
This is you making yourself unavailable. Draw up a plan and follow it . As we know, nature abhors vacuum. if you decide to leave that part of your life, you need to channel the energy somewhere else. so, set out your priorities and look to achieve all of them. Get involved in other fun things you enjoy doing such a hiking, having alone time, or working on your friendships.
You do these things having mentally switched off from falling in love and letting those around you know you are not ready for it to happen.
Avoid your inner detective.
This is for those of us who fall in love easily and are naturally curious. we tend to meet a person and want to know more orall about them. In the course of this fact-finding mission, we find we are falling more and more for the person. This cannot happen when you have decided to stay single or aweay from a romantic relationship. This is especially so for old flames. Stay off their social media pages and mind your business.
Avoid getting too friendly.
If you are the type who falls easily, keep friendships platonic. Those long conversations and jokes and sending each other memes must not happen.We find it easy to fall for someone we feel we have connection with . This connection is usually built over time with conversations, laughs and creating memories together. If you would rather skip the whole love and dating thing keep conversations to the minimum.Getting too friendly with someone may create the illusion of being in love;a situation you are trying to avoid.
Self respect
Self respect is something you should have. Respecting yourself causes others to respect you.It is subliminal. you do not even have to demand to be respected. They see how you carry yourself and people act accordingly. For love, when you state that you don want such overtures, people take you seriously because they see that you take yourself seriously.
This is also why you will not grovel, no matter the pain and desire to, when a relationship is ended by someone you still feel strongly about. You take it in stride, shed your tears if need be and soldier on.
Remain convinced
Remain self motivated and convinced that there is someone out there extremely curated for you who you will meet when the time is right. Till such time comes, focus on the goal of your life.
Falling in love is not in itself a bad thing, but it can be painful and debilitating if one falls for the wrong sort of person. There is also a wrong and right time to fall in love. If you have a goal or level you are trying to attain, staying out of a romantic dalliance might be a good decision as you remain undistracted. If you also are just coming out of a relationship, it is always good to remain single for a while so you can get to reassess yourself before getting to be with someone else.
