From this question, there are 13,429 response responses. The answer given to the question consists of various reasons such as poor temptation, low self-confidence, poor appearance, shame, low effort, and a bad experience from a previous love relationship.
This research is done by uploading a question on Reddit with an anonymous account. The sound of the question is, "Guys, why are you single?"
From this question, there are 13,429 response responses. The answer given to the question consists of a variety of reasons, such as poor temptation, low self-confidence, poor appearance, shame, low effort, and a bad experience from a previous love relationship.
Of the tens of thousands of answers, 6,974 were classified into several categories. These categories include anxiety, lack of time, enjoying being single, fear of relationships, and saying "give up".
After grouping thousands of answers into these categories, the author of this research, Menelaos Apostolou, then built the idea that men's social abilities cannot keep up with the changes that occur in society.
"Modern single men often lack tempting abilities because in their ancestral pre-industrial context, selection pressures on mechanisms that regulate marital and selection efforts are weak," Apostolou explained, reported by IFL Science.
"This ability is needed today, because in the selection of post-industrial community partners it is not regulated or enforced, but people have to find their own partners."
Apostolou claims, because now men no longer have the choice to get a partner through arranged marriage or relationships, then they have to fight to get a partner. According to him, this is a relatively new pair search rule in the history of our species.
Unfortunately, the rules are not widespread in all human societies, and are not always widespread in societies that have adopted them. So, the status of being single to many men today is the result of something that has been passed on to them by their unskilled ancestors who do not need to be smart to get a wife.
Apostolou's theory is of course then questioned and is also considered counter-productive for single men. Because this evolutionary argument seems to free men from any responsibility for their comrades.
In addition, this research also has a number of limitations because it is only focused on men and does not include the demographic information of respondents so that the age range of respondents, their location, cultural background, etc. is unknown.
Apostolou himself hopes that in the future "other researchers will allocate more effort in studying singularity and how people can become more effective pair-seekers and guard-spouses."
He explained that the message from the results of this research is that now many single men are struggling with uncertainty in getting a partner. The best way to overcome this is to build a community where men can express their feelings openly.
The main message we can take from this study is that many single men struggle with insecurity. The best way to overcome this is to build a society where men can handle that feeling openly.
