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Stumbling on the prompt for the week here on the reach-out community overwhelmed me with thoughts. The topic is a really important one that many young adults need to discuss before venturing into it. I am very grateful to the admins and moderators of the community for suggesting such a crucial topic as it will enable interested persons like myself to engage, vast as it may be.
Marriage is a lot of things to different people, to some it is solely just an escape from loneliness, others simply want a partner for the purpose of childbearing, and to some marriage is an obligation or duty. Well I don't think any of these perspectives are wrong but it should be the combination of all and a lot more in my books. Ever since I was a kid I have always visualized the idea of getting married in my head. The story also revolves around wearing the perfect dress, kickass music in the background, having the perfect partner and winning the couples dance off undisputed. These were just a child's imagination running wild and as I continued to grow older I realized I was too focused on the wedding than the life long commitment itself which some people still do to this day and has caused the collapse of numerous
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marriages.
Marriage is more than just a wedding, it is a union between two people who have concluded that they are ready to build a home together through the good and the horrible. It does not require love alone for it to thrive. Elements like commitment, sacrifice, communication, effort and dedication are necessary for it to flourish. When I eventually find that partner I am willing to spend the rest of my life with, I intend on giving it my all to ensure that the union works and continues to grow as we take the promise of forever together .
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Marriage exists in different forms and predominantly operates on people's beliefs. Religious marriages thrive under religious guidelines and court marriage is navigated by the necessary apparatus of the law. This notion applies to various types of marriages and while I strongly believe in the traditional marriage as the best form of marriage, I will have to learn on the religious specifically the Christian mode primarily because in Africa, the traditional allows the husband to marry more than one wife and I don't intend on sharing my home with another woman🤣🤣🤣🤣.
For this very reason I'll have to settle for the white wedding. It takes place in the church and I doubt any church will allow a man to marry more than a wife. This is an advantage I intend to exploit to the max. The court marriage is also in support of the one man one wife policy however I am not a fan of it and so I'll stick with the white wedding which is also legally recognized by the state.
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Now for the case of if the type of marriage determines how the home will be?, well I will have to agree on this with brief instances to back up my claim. If a couple gets married in court, directly on indirectly the family is regulated by marital court laws. The same thing happens to the church, mosque, tradition or otherwise. One cannot even compare the operations of a polygamous family to that of a monogamous one as the differences are very vast so indeed the type of marriage dictates how the family will be . However it is also important to note that despite the type of marriage, the couples still need to put in effort for it to work, grow and withstand challenges.
I am no marriage expert and there is still a lot about the subject that eludes me. However I will continue to learn and prepare for this life long journey. There is no such thing as a perfect partner, this I know so I am not expecting one. I just hope to meet the right person who is willing to go the extra mile with me as I will him.
Thank you
