I am so worried about how society sees and has been seeing women.
Women are pressured the most in this life, so many “Don’t do this”, and “Don’t do that”, You keep hearing things like “Is this how you will become a mother?” “Is this how you will become a wife?”Etcetera etcetera.
The girl child is raised to be a wife and a mother from a very young age while the boy child is left to play around because in the future he will be taken care of by his “wife”.
People rarely remind them of the type of fathers that they’d become in the future, people rarely rub it in their faces to be responsible husbands from an early age.
If parents spend half the time they spend training their female children in training their male children we would have a lot of kind and responsible men in the society today who would be kind to their wives in return. We would have more intentional men who understand that marriage isn’t only to be taken care of by one person but both parties are involved but no, the girl child is the only center of focus.
Can women be cut some slack? In all honesty, the workload is just too much for them. Society has painted the picture of a perfect woman or wife and in the process, a lot of women have lost themselves.
A lot of women’s dreams are or were altered just because they got married, a lot of women stopped living and enjoying their lives because they got married, is this what marriage is supposed to look like? Is this what being a woman is supposed to be?
This post was fueled by the kind of comments I see married women comment on relationship videos on social media. They keep leaving comments like “I am tired”, “I want to leave”, “my husband is not ready to change” and so many more.
A lot of women are suffering in their marriages and are refusing to leave just because of their children. To some women, their happiness does not matter anymore and I ask, is this supposed to be so?
When these women decide to break free, society labels these women as single mothers, and the first thing people think about them is their inability to fight for their marriages or keep their marriages. People look past them because they are not ready to deal with not just the woman but her three to four kids as well.
The question is how often do you hear about single fathers? The ratio is 2:5.
Men are able to opt and leave a marriage and start all over again with ease, of course, he doesn’t need to carry his four children with him, he is still fit to be in a relationship with another woman and have as many kids as he wants as long as he has the money to take care of his new family.
Society expects so much from a woman that she is forced to make certain decisions.
Firstly it starts with the pressure of getting married, then looking down on her achievements because she doesn’t have a man or refusing to give her a role she deserves because she is not married! How crazier can it get!
For the single ladies, society has made young ladies feel so insecure about their bodies. “Ohh her breast is too small”, “she does not have a big ass or her stomach is too big”, “I like them big blah blah blah.
It doesn’t end there as her financial status is accessed, if she isn’t financially stable she can be called a gold digger and if she is financially stable and independent she is seen as a proud and arrogant woman. I ask again what does society want from women?
For humans who do not have the amount of energy or stamina as compared to their male counterparts, they do so much.
Please let women breathe, let us live our lives without you constantly reminding us of the “what ifs” and the “Don’ts of life”. The world is chaotic as it is already don’t be the reason why we second guess or hate ourselves. Cut us some slacks as we aren’t robots but humans with blood running in our veins🙂
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