When we hear people say “ They don’t have friends or Friendship is not their thing” and a bunch of other things that discredit friendships, we can’t help but wonder what planet they fell from or what broke them to the point where they do not believe in friendship or want to give friendship a chance.
Friendship is beautiful, no scratch that friendship is golden and especially when you are with someone who understands you.
Friendship is being there for people you love, encouraging them, supporting them, and having their backs when necessary but you see when a close friend hurts you? It hits deeper than 10 strangers coming together to hurt you.
You get hurt to the point where you wouldn’t mind shutting everyone out and being over with making friends.
I love to make friends, and I love to have people in my corner but trust me I have had my fair share of betrayals from friends, and none was a walk in the park.
It’s funny how you take a look at your friendship with a person and you can go as far as boasting that your friendship with that person is going to last, you have so much faith in your friendship with this person that you both even include your children in the equation. You both believe that your children are going to continue to be best friends and continue to carry on the legacy, lol what happened along the line? Did life happen and you both fell apart or did your friendship dream come true? If the latter happened to you then congratulations you are very lucky.
Like I stated earlier I do not blame people who decide not to have friends, people who decide to keep people at arms length because it’s not so easy watching your buddy become a stranger to you.
How you both move from having long conversations, giggling, and cracking jokes to not being able to look at each other in the face. How you both moved from being part of each other’s life to being completely oblivious of each other’s existence is crazy!
You spend so much time and effort to make it work only for everything to be thrown away in a matter of minutes or hours? I mean your effort, time, and emotions to be thrown away?
Just recently I stopped being friends with a very good friend of mine, and by good I mean very “good” friend of mine. You know it’s one thing to love and adore a person and another thing to see how they react in the face of conflict.
I believe in talking things out rather than pilling things up and exploding when you can no longer take anymore, I might not be the best friend in the whole world but I believe so much in my friendship with people and I try to save them at all costs. It breaks my heart whenever I see my friends relax after our little quarrel. I know people hurt differently and also process things differently but when you just stop talking to your so-called friend abruptly without talking things out is wrong and worse when you wait for your friend to fix your friendship issues every time.
This is the same thing this friend of mine did or has been doing. Whenever we had a small or big quarrel I am always the one to call to fix everything, not because I am the bigger person or I am more mature but because I love her too much to let her go.
I and this friend of mine have not been on talking terms for a while now, deep down in my heart I wanted to fix things like always but I decided to watch if this friend of mine would call, text, or do anything but as usual this my friend was comfortable with us being apart. I guess I was the only one too scared of losing this friend of mine as this person in question has moved on without me in the picture. While it breaks my heart a lot it was an eye-opener and I got to really understand that every friendship has an expiry date🙂
Will just one person make me not believe in friendship again? Hell No!! I’d keep loving all my friends as I have always loved them because we all need each other to survive😃
To everyone hurting from losing a dear one, you will be just fine, just hang in there for a little while😊
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