Relationship is hardwork not privilege and a lasting relationship requires and depends on a lot of forgiveness.
It is not enough to love someone, You must be willing compromise before you can make anything work with them, other wise that feeling is just water under the bridge.
For your relationship to thrive, you are going to need more than chemistry, You’ll need effort and that effort must be conscious and intentional.
Chemistry is beautiful but it is not strong enough to carry your relationship to a desired destination, You need EFFORT to sustain CHEMISTRY.
For example, making oneself available to constantly check on your partner via phone calls, text messaging or setting up a date can be challenging,
Without making a conscious, deliberate effort to squeeze out time from busy schedules, one might end up creating reasons to justify their unwillingness to make effort.
Also, You must teach yourself to believe in your partner, give them moral support and also, see the best in them even when it is not that obvious.
Anticipating your partner’s needs both emotionally and financially can help your prepare towards meeting their expectations.
For example, A husband comes back home from work, He must be famished and exhausted. A thoughtful wife, anticipates his needs and make preparations for food and a warm bath.
A wife goes through all the trouble of anticipation and meeting up his needs. She expects him to atleast show appreciation and acknowledge her efforts.
Your partner tells you about their problems, The least you could do is show concern and make efforts to lessen that burden.
The whole idea of being in a relationship beyond sex is to make individual burdens lighter through empathy and teamwork, otherwise, what is the point of dating?
Without conscious and intentional effort, the chemistry and all its euphoria slowly fades away like fallen leaves in autumn.
You must be willing and prepared to intentionally tolerate them, endure them, understand them and sometimes, see things from their own point of view.
Not because you cannot do without them or because you have not seen better options but because you chose to stay, You chose to love.
If they are not good enough for you, teach them to be enough, teach them the things you know and empower them to the best of your ability.
If this pattern of behavior is consistent and reciprocated, it will grow to become something from a romantic movie.
Relationship is Afterall, Effort over Chemistry and Effort must be intentional.
