The theme this week for the hivenaija weekly prompts is a tricky topic but I will try to narrow down my logic in this post. If my partner and child happen to both be in a critical situation, and my resources can only save one then I will choose to save my partner's life. It is a hard decision to make and even if I choose the other way around. The death of one of them will equally hurt me and put me in a dark place for some time because losing one of your own comes with great pain and agony.
The reason why I choose my partner is based on logical reasoning. There is a high chance that I and my partner will procreate another child in the future, and slowly the pain of losing our first child will be a thing of the past. There is also a chance after the accident my partner may not be able to procreate, but that should not be an issue. There are a lot of children in orphanage homes who don't have parents and would give anything to have one.
Adopting a child will be the next option. The decision won’t be made by me alone and will be discussed between me and my partner. There is a huge misconception that a child adopted won’t be given the same love and attention because they don’t share the same blood which is absurd, every child can be loved equally, and blood type should not be a reason to deny your love and affection towards a child.
Nigerians have mixed feelings when it comes to adopting a child. It is not appreciated by most cultures and family members because they refuse to see the child as one of their own that is why even when the parents try their possible best to bury the adoption secret from the child it ends up coming to light one way or the other, and these lead to broken bonds the parents have been nurturing for years.
There is a study that shows a child raised by two parents is bound to be responsible and well-mannered in society, but a child raised by a single parent ends up being wayward and disrespectful. There are some single parents who have done an amazing job raising their child or children by themselves but if you hear their side of the story, you will know it was not an easy challenge for them, being a provider and a caretake are two different things, and trying to balance the two could end up in bad parenting.
The decision to save one of the two important people in my life doesn’t have a happy start but along the road. It could be a thing of the past, and happiness will be restored to my household. So guys this is where I say goodbye. Thanks for stopping by, and good luck to the other participants.
NOTE: I am not married. Thank You.
