Yesterday, I came back home from school in the rain. Yes, I was with an umbrella but I was still a bit drenched by the rain because I had to share with someone who was stranded. We were both fine as long as our bags were safe from the rain. Immediately I got home, I changed into some dry so I don’t catch a cold. I quickly prepare dinner and sat down to eat. While I was eating, I already made plans of watching a movie along side so I enjoyed my meal while watching a Nigerian movie.
The lessons from the movie are so many that I thought of sharing it with us. This could have fit a movie review post but I plan to tell the story because I want us to understand the lessons even without having to watch the movie. The movie was about a couple that just got back from their honeymoon. They were so happy on their way back home but immediately they got to the house, on seeing the husband’s sister who also happens to be her best friend, the wife’s mood changed immediately. She wasn’t happy that the sister was there and she even went as far as framing her for stealing from her just to make her go away.
At that point, even I was surprised. I thought maybe that was how she was before the marriage but that wasn’t it. The moment she saw that she was married, this lady turned into a completely different person that even her own best friend couldn’t even understand not to talk of her husband she only met some months ago. So apparently, it turned out she was an abuser. She would always make it seem like her husband was beating her meanwhile, she was only doing all of these things just to frame her husband.
Her husband was a boxer and that means he is not supposed to beat his wife or anyone at all. So her plan was to just make the man suffer. She would bandage her body whenever her husband’s sister was coming over or even his friend, just to prove to them that the husband was abusing her and sadly, they all believed her. Every effort for the husband to tell them his predicament proved futile. They even hated him in the process for beating his wife as the wife kept on saying she loves her husband and she doesn’t want him to spend the rest of his life in jail.
She staged it all so well that the man lost the trust of everyone around him. Until one day when his sister saw his ex wife and she told her what her brother was doing to his new wife and she found it hard to believe it. She quickly called her ex husband and asked them to meet up and that was when she suggested to him to plant a camera in his house and make sure his wife display all her shenanigans. He made sure to position the camera in a strategic place to capture everything and also make sure his wife doesn’t notice it.
Before she started, she made sure to collect her husband’s phone just to be sure he wasn’t recording her or something and then she started acting like the husband was abusing her again. And then the husband asked for a divorce and she threatened to kill him if he ever says that again. In the end, the husband was able to prove his innocence to everyone and it was so hard for them to believe it and they probably won’t have believe it if they weren’t watching the video with their own eyes. They felt sorry for not believing him when he tried to ask for help but he was just happy that he was finally free.
Today, a lot of men are always seen as the culprits when it comes to domestic abuse but sadly, these days, women are also abusers too. And it’s even more scary because as a man no one will want to believe you when you say otherwise. In the wife’s defense, she was that way because she doesn’t want to be beaten by her husband just the way her mother was beaten by her father till he passed and also the way her sister was paralyzed by her husband. So she decided to be the abuser instead.
The major lesson I learnt and want to share with us is the way people change. People change within split seconds and we shouldn’t bank on one side of a story. And most importantly, we should always learn to speak up. Yes, people might not believe us but we shouldn’t stop trying to speak up. If the husband had settled with his wife’s attitude, I’m sure he would have died and no one would have ever thought it was his wife that killed him.
We should stop judging people based on the acts of others. Everyone is not the same. We should try to know people for ourselves rather than knowing them based on what others have to say about them. Men are victims too of abusive marriages not just the women. Even children can abuse their own parents too. No one is above being the abuser.
Thank you for reading through. ❤️
