Caring for people is not an easy task and it most times, involves too many times when those people who care for them will have to feel hurt while at it. Caring for older persons is even a bit more challenging because it is assumed that, as people grow older, they tend to become like their younger self and you can imagine how hard taking of child can be not to say taking care of a matured baby.
We know the challenges that come with older people especially our older women. As women grow older, they enter the phase we call menopause. This is a phase that no matter what, every woman will have to pass through this phase as long as they live on. Mind you, menopause is not a problem but then, it becomes a problem when some women have some excess symptoms and they are left untreated. Dealing with some older women can be really difficult if some of these menopausal symptoms are not managed. Mind you, there are other reasons but this reason play a crucial role in women’s behavior.
During this phase of life for women, these women tend to have hormonal imbalance, temporary loss of memory and so on. And these symptoms are most times responsible for the behavior they often times display. And as for the men, it is also possible to find them become more intolerant as they grow older because there are also some hormonal changes, memory loss, others and naturally, they are both humans and they will still want to remind us that they know better than us even when we obviously know better than them now.
So based on this little reason, I won’t really mind staying with older people but then, I won’t want to overlook some of the disadvantages of having them around. If they do more harm to my mental health and also that of my children, I will prefer to have people take even better care of them. That way, they will have a better chance of living longer and enjoy the fruit of their labor. For some days or weeks or months, I will always do well to pay them a visit with most of the family, to them and have fun with them. That way, they will always value our company and cherish it even better.
They will always look forward for having us coming around and I believe, this will also help them live even longer. To me, it is not us staying with these older persons that matters, what matters is the effect staying with them has on both us or even on them. If the disadvantages are more, I will prefer to take care of them even better by hiring the best hands take good care of them and make sure to visit them as often as possible. Meanwhile, in some cases, some older people especially those ones that are honest with themselves, know that staying with their children at old age might be really too much for them, so they always try to lead a healthy lifestyle so they won’t end up giving their children too many problems.
But then, not all older people are like that, some will even blackmail you emotionally just to make you feel guilty of not allowing them live with you under the same roof. But then, like I said, we should always make sure to weigh the options carefully, if not we might end up having the worst memories of our older family members at old age. So we having money to afford a better care for them should be something that will help both the children and the parents. But then, as much as it’s possible, we should make them see the reasons why it is better this way so they won’t feel neglected.
The only time when you are allowed to make this decision on your own is when you can’t communicate with them due to their attitude or reaction towards things, if not, it is necessary to always communicate your plans for them with them as it concerns them. If not, that on its own might stir up strife in the home because those older people might end up feeling not loved and neglected despite all they have done for us,
This is what I have to say to this, bearing in mind that I will also be an older person someday as long as I live and this is an opportunity for me to start shaping my life in a way that won’t give my children or anyone so much troubles trying to take care of me. But if peradventure I still end up not leading a healthy lifestyle, it is certain that I might only bring people more problems when I get older after I retire and the truth is, I will still end up suffering more for it.
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