Argument between people or groups is something that is hard to stop because it is an important tool to learning more about themselves. We can't be living with or around people and not expect them to annoy you or we to annoy them, it is almost impossible I cannot say it is impossible. We all are different and we have different ideas about things and different ways we approach matters and that alone is enough to cause heated arguments among ourselves.
I remember back when I was living with my aunt because my dad was passing through so many financial problems. My aunt was already living with two others, one was her son (also my cousin) and the other was my cousin but not her child and when we joined her (myself and my siblings) we became six in the house. At first we all were happy we were living together but as time went by we started offending ourselves every now and then, trust me it was not fun at all, I can't count how many times I got into a fight or should I say how many times I got beaten by my cousin.
Everyday comes with a new trouble and it was like a routine, and that was not the kind of thing I wanted so I had to start learning how to tolerate most of their excesses and somehow I think they did likewise and I noticed how things started to improve for the better, we started having more understanding of ourselves and that helped us to tolerate ourselves and it helped our bond wax stronger.
Living with my aunt was part of the reasons why I had to learn how to tolerate people because I was able to realize that we all have different home training, some are good while others are not so the best thing I figure will help me live in unity with people is to learn how to tolerate them even as I make efforts to make them change from their negative attitudes and also make sure to work on myself too.
No matter how disciplined we might be or how loosed, we will always offend someone and also be offended as well but then if we will be able to cultivate the habit of tolerating people, we will be able to live in unity with them. I know some people can be really annoying and stubborn but then we should just try our best to keep our cool and if possible avoid those things that might give them room to offend us.
It's already a new year and as some people are making their different resolutions, don't be surprised that there is someone getting determined to make you feel like a really bad person but I will advise that you don't let them get to you. Yes it is not going to be easy especially for those of us that have problems controlling our anger but then I believe we will be able to overcome if we make up our minds.
This year, I will encourage you to learn how to tolerant, be very slow to speak but quick to hear, learn to confront those that wronged us to tell them what they did wrong and be willing to forgive them whether or not they accept their wrongs. Also, in whatever you do, your choice of words, your actions and many more, remember to always treat people the way you will want to be treated.
Until next time, stay AWESOME!!!
