Recently, I was alone and thinking about life and what our society makes us believe while growing up, and a lot of questions just kept popping up in my head.
We were programmed to share our feelings, to open up, to talk, to express what we are going through.
We grew up that way and accepted it as a way of life; we learned how to discuss our problems with people, and it looked like freedom.
Whenever we are troubled, and we don't share our pains, struggles, and feelings with someone, we don't feel alive, and there is nothing wrong with it.
However, I noticed that with time, this very trait transforms into a bondage, instead of becoming someone who has mastered how to tackle their issue by themselves, one becomes weak, always scared of facing their situations by themselves.
The moment something is bothering you, and you don't see anyone trustworthy to talk to about it, it becomes a problem; one becomes restless and burdened.
I don't want to believe that everything we learned while growing up is the best for us; most of them were designed to pamper us.
If we can not be strong enough to fight whatever is bothering us, how can we be strong enough to take care of ourselves?
Don't get me wrong, opening up is good, but too much of it would make you emotionally dependent on people, and that is lethargic.
You asked why most people don't like sharing what they are going through. I'll tell you the answer: it's because of fear of betrayal.
People are wicked; you open up deep and private things to people only for them to use them against you or make it a public matter.
The crazy part is, sometimes they may even proffer a solution to your problem, make you feel loved, but immediately after that, the stories that will come up will be different.
This is why most people prefer to keep their issues to themselves. Someone might be depressed, but he or she prefers to stay silent and allow the issue to take them down rather than share with someone.
I don't know what you believe, but I think the solution to this is not opening up to anyone; it is mastering how to come out of situations by ourselves.
A problem shared is no longer a problem solved. Most times, a problem shared makes you either a target, a slave, or relaxed.
Will you always have someone to share your problems with? And even if you do, will the person always be reliable?
In life, I believe that no one is coming to save us; we must learn how to stop waiting for people to reach out to us before we heal.
We must learn how to come out of situations by ourselves and not necessarily depend on people to carry us out.
We don't need to open up; we only need to master ourselves. We don't need to share anything with anyone; we only need to see our worth and help ourselves survive.
But don't get me wrong, sometimes, it's okay to talk to someone, but we must also be careful of the kind of information we hand over to them, so that in the end, instead of looking for help, one won't end up creating more problems for themselves.
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