There are quite a lot of virtue that as humans we need to possess but then if we want to be sincere with ourselves, it is almost impossible for everyone to possess these virtues. But then, if there is one trait in humans that I hate it is EXCESSIVE ANGER. In our world today, so many people get angry easily and they end up doing things that they are not proud of but sadly, there are some that take pride in the fact that they get angry easily and they even boast if it to people.
I do get angry and most times it hardly ends well. Yes people do offend us most of the time and we get angry but then, some people are fond of transferring aggression from one person to another and this is where I find problem with them. If there is one virtue I look out for in a person that would make me easily let go of a grudge for them, it would be CALMNESS. I know how much damage anger can cause in any relationship so if there is any virtue I look out for it has to be the opposite of anger.
I so much admire people that are calm in nature, they get angry but they don't loss their calm in the process. I can't really say I'm a calm person but I'm working on that because I know how I can be when I'm angry and it's not something that I'm proud of in any way. And when I see people that show this trait of calmness, I just easily let go of whatever it is they must have done to me because their response is always soft and calm.
There was a time when I had a friend who easily loss his temper and he hardly let go of grudges against others but funny enough, he is also the first to want to pick up a fight. We had so many cases when we got into an argument and he will never ever come to say sorry instead he will always try reminding me that, that was who he was and there is nothing I could do to change it. Well, that statement alone gives me a bad mood and I just want to stay away from him for as long as I can but then I'm not someone that can keep malice with people so whenever he talks to me I just answer him like nothing ever happened.
That went on for a very long time and funny enough, despite all the advise we gave to him, he never saw anything wrong with his temperament. And that made a lot of people say really bad things about him. And there is one other annoying trait that goes with anger and that's PRIDE. People who have anger issues are never humble because once they do it means they no longer let their anger out excessively. My friend had a mixture of both anger and pride and he made more enemies than friends but I noticed that the days when he tried to hold his anger and pride in, he was one of the best people you would want to mingle with.
The truth is, no matter what someone has done to me, once they are calm and humble, they easily melt my heart and forgiving them is never a debate for me. And I do believe that if everyone posses this quality, it would be really easy for us all to let go of our grudges against one another. Well, it's not really easy to be calm and humble if you are suffering from anger issues but then it is very possible because I was once a victim of getting angry and so far I've seen quite an improvement and I know that I can still do better.
This is my response to the suggested Hive learners topic, until next time, stay AWESOME and JIGGY!!!
