Everyone is capable of being a victim and a perpetrator of abuse. If gender doesn't matter in other fields, then it shouldn't matter in who gets the bigger platform to stand on when it comes to "I am a victim".

Many men, too, have been harmed at the hands of women - but I think, on the balance men are both more likely to be able to defend themselves, or have an avenue to remove themselves from the situation.

I have seen so many women go back to their abusers. Men, often do the same, but not with the same amount of frequency. "better the devil you know", and all that.

I am a "healthy" man who would never dream of abusing anyone, of any gender. I do not believe violence, insults, abuse, or manipulation are the answer. Yet, like many men, the media echo-sphere of "men-bad" make me afraid to engage in healthy behaviours because of the broad brush that all men are painted with. How many other men, especially young and vulnerable ones have the same experience?

How is that contributing damage to our society?

When I'm on a walk, and I come across a random stranger, I make a point to say "G'day, how are you?" as I pass (yes, I'm Australian!) because such a small act creates something of a social adhesion.

Today, for instance, a woman was on a jog (jogging toward me) while I was walking home from the Gym. I gave her a wide berth (as I didn't want to be seen as a threat) - but was pleased when she made the greeting before I did - I didn't want to engage, because I know how I hate to be bothered when I'm exercising.

Sorry for the long comment!