SURVIVAL IS MEANT TO BE A PRESSURE: IS IT POSSIBLE TO BE FREE FROM PRESSURE?
Hello hivers✍️, how are you doing today? Happy weekend to you all.
Many people think they can be free from pressure, they think the moment they accomplished certain thing at a certain stage, they think they have done with pressure about their lives?
Pressure is part of life, and we must continue to find ways to relieve ourselves from pressure.
Think about it? A boy or girl of adolescent age has pressure that is facing such as peer- pressure, social pressure of friends (girlfriend/boyfriend), puberty pressure, academic pressure, family pressure and so on.
There is a girl of age 13 in my class, she was left by her mother for more than 3 years now, she never set her eye on her. She left the girl with his father and went without turning back to check, call, or message.
I was facilitating learning in her class; I saw tears in her eye, she always likes to be alone, she always separates herself from friends; I noticed that she is very brilliant but easily carried away.
I called her into my office, she said master, “I want to eat, I have not eaten today”. I gave her money to get snacks to eat but she should come back to my office.
Though, before that very day, I asked about her family from her friends, and they told me that her mother is no longer with her mother.
After she came back, after I cracked jokes with her: I asked her question that where is your mother? she began to cry immediately. I said to her that I knew your mother is no longer with your father, you need to start your life afresh since she did not ask of you.
She said to me, “Master, do you know that I cried most times in my room; my mother left me without checking on me. I missed my mother so much; I never knew that my mother could do this to me”.
I asked her what happened between her father and mother?
She said, “one night, I overheard my father talking to my mother that she was ‘infidel’.
Both we're dragging the issue for days, after 2 weeks my mother left home. When I came back from school, I could not find her or her bag: I did not see his luggage in the room.
I asked my dad, and he told me that her family had an emergency. After two months, she did not come home. I was waiting for her believing she would come home.
“There was a day when I was fighting with my friend, she accused me that my mother left her father without trace; that she heard from her mother. I went to my father to ask him; he finally told me that before she came from the office that my mother packed all her belongings and left home.
“I began to experience frustration and rejection when my father got a new wife😭😭; I was abused and used as a slave in the house🤦♀️. If I had a place to run to, I would have run away from home. The pressure was too much for me; I have told my father several times, he did nothing about it. That was the reason after school hours, I stayed behind in the school till my father came back from the office, I can’t sleep sometimes in the night, I think a lots, I don’t feel like going to school again but if my father heard that, he was not going to be happy with me, I have problem in concentrating. When I saw a mother and a daughter, I felt jealous and aggressive.
That was the reason for my devastation most of the time because I always think about it."
I was shocked when I heard this girl talking about what she was passing through. Imagine such a girl passing through such pressure at that age; yet, after she overcame the pressure, she began to face another pressure which was pressure to have boyfriend. she thought it was normal since girls at her age had boyfriends and engage in sex.
I believe as far as one is competing for survival, there must be pressure: survival has to do with pressure because most of the things you need for survival do not come to you on a platter of gold. You strive to get some of these things, you work for it, you compete for it.
FINANCIAL PRESSURE
My pressure seems very common to most of the people in the world, especially people of my age. The economic meltdown makes things complicated for me, the money is no longer enough to cater for myself. Imagine married couples doing the same government work like me are feeling when a single man like me complaining of no money. I believe they have more responsibilities than me.
The price of materials is getting hype in the market every day, and there is no increment in salary.
An old man who retired 7 years ago said, “when I started government job in 1990, my salary was #19,000; I and my family cannot finish a food of #6000 in a month: I saved more than half of my salary in those days.”
Today, I spent more than 50% of my salary on food. It is not that I am a voracious eater, it is a situation of things in my country.
My problem now is that the remaining money is not enough to get what I need. Therefore, I began to experience financial pressure to accomplish my budgets.
I began to think about what to do to get more money to accomplish my budget.
SOLUTION TO BREAK AWAY FROM FINANCIAL PRESSURE
I am planning to seek financial advice from experts: it is good for me to seek financial advice from experts; how can I manage my resources to my taste, what should I do to gain financial freedom and what should I do to break away from financial pressure.
Getting advice from experts has helped me a lot, whenever I need advice, I seek it from experts.
More businesses to generate incomes: one source of income is not advisable; even politicians engage in other business talk more of me. I plan to get more ways to generate income but not offline job, I need an online job. I so much believe in online job.
Get more Skills: A friend of mine sent a link of remote jobs to me. It was about programming 🖥️and the pay was very good, but because I don’t have the skill, I can’t apply for it. It would have been more than enough for me to cater for all my needs and budgets. I would have gotten excess left for me.
I stand up for success, and success is not achieved by merely making mouth, No room for laziness, no room for idleness.
Thank you for reading my post.