I need to admit something.
Not caring what others think is really difficult.
This is coming from the person who wrote a book on how to not give a heck at all, you might say.
But I would love you to hear it because this is very important.
Everyone wants to be free from people's approval.
We all want to be free, happy and busy with our things. We are like I only want to win and not hear from anyone who would be critical of us.
Actually, caring about the opinion of others is normal and can be a good thing.
Yes, it hurts when someone has negative thoughts of you.
However, caring about what others think is also the thing that makes you stop to help somebody in pain.
This is the part of you that feels horrible when a buddy has lost his job, or your mother is sick, or even worse–a baby loses its life.
Anyone who really didn’t care more about what others think, or feel would be a psychopath.
Caring is what drives empathy, compassion and friendship – in fact all our most important relationships.
So the real question isn’t:
“How do I stop caring about what people think?”
It’s:
“Who do I care about and why?”
Stop trying to not care, start caring differently—be selective in whose approbation you desire.
You will only waste your time trying to make a small-minded, self-passive person pleased.
Instead, look for better people.
And if you are concerned for it, loose the heck of care way more important than approval.
Ask yourself:
What are you willing to be laughed at for in your life?
Because your answer to that question is more important than anyone’s opinion ever will.
