Empathy hurts compassion is constructive. As for me how am i doing. Im going through tremendous personal upheaval and self growth and change. Im a mixture of mourning, resolve and fear. But the answer is i hurt a lot these days and am missing dreadfully two people that i love and care about more than anything in the world. I have good moments where i feel intrepid and hopeful. And i have moments where i break down and cry.