Life is a dangerous sport to play, there are threats and danger waiting for you under every corner. Nobody who is playing this sport will survive, this sport is exhausting and it is killing 100% of the people who are playing it.
Think of it like this, how miserable your life would be if you would go through the effort every day to prepare yourself to skydive from a plane. You would go through the briefing, put on the gear, get on the plane feel all the anticipatory anxiety in the plane eventually reach the drop point, and than have your emotions overwhelm you and never actually jump.
On the ride back to land you are probably going to feel bad that you didn't jump, we could probably call that depression. And next day you go through the same cycle of preparation and anxiety followed by avoidance and depression. Over and over again until the end of your life.
Most people lives is like attempting to skydive without ever jumping from the plane. They are on a vicious cycle of anxiety and depression, but they lack relaxation and excitement from their life because they never put themselves in any danger. So there is no high to it.
Sadly these three things danger, relaxation and excitement all live in the same place on the edge of the point where you are completely uncertain if you are going to succeed or fail.
Avoiding one of them, means that you are going to also avoid the other two. Leaving you with a boring and stressful life.
The ironi is that we are trapped in this skydiving tour, the decision to get on that plane doesn't belong to you, that decision was taken by your parents years ago when they decided to have you.
So the only way for you to have any excitement and calm in your life is to actually jump. Extreme sports are enjoyable because they put you in such a high amount of danger that there is nothing you can do to prevent any of the negative consequences. If you are free falling and something goes wrong with your parachute what are you going to do in mid air!? Panic is going to accomplish nothing, you actually have much bigger chances to survive and solve the problem with the parachute if you stay calm. So it forces you to surrender to your experience, because it is the best survival strategy.
Don't get me wrong I am not saying that you should start doing any extreme sports, I am using it as a metaphor for life, as a suggestion that perhaps it is better to approach life more like an extreme sport.
It is a little more subtle than this in real life as far as I noticed people adopt two avoidance strategies. One they pretend that they aren't even in the plain they become apathetic as jumping is not going to make any difference.
The other avoidance strategy is by pretending that they are jumping, by becoming obsessed, as in a way if they master certain aspects of the sport that have no danger they are going to reach such a high level of mastery that they are in a place where it is impossible to fail.
Not to confuse this with people who are trapped in dangerous environments with people who are abusive, where avoiding that environment is probably the best thing to do.
