In most homes in our society, this is the case that if a wife asks her husband for some money for pocket expenses, the answer is straight away that "What will you do with the money, you get everything, I will bring everything, tell me what you want, I will bring it, I don't have any useless money" meaning he will start making speeches all over the world, but there is a chance that I will take out some money and put it in the hands of his wife, maybe she needs something.
Then that poor woman is forced to sometimes spread her hands in front of her parents, sometimes she asks her sisters, sometimes she asks for a loan from her friends.
By Allah, I don't understand how husbands tolerate my wife asking for money from others when she is with me.
It is obvious that he is also a human being, he also has needs, as a human being he also feels like spending something somewhere, he must feel like buying something of his choice, he must feel like giving something to his parents, siblings or friends etc., he must feel like giving charity, he must feel like helping a poor person, he must also feel like having some money with me at all times which can be useful in any situation.
She left her home, parents, sisters, brothers for you, she surrendered herself and her life to you, entrusted herself to you, started living under your control, now she does not go anywhere to earn money herself, so all her needs are your responsibility.
We spend thousands of rupees on hotels, tours, outings and other frivolous things with friends outside and when our wife asks for some money, we start telling all sorts of things.
Every month, determine your wife's pocket money from your salary according to your ability. Whenever you get a salary, come home and give your wife two thousand, five thousand, or ten thousand, as much as you can afford, as a mandatory pocket money. After giving the pocket money, do not ask your wife to account for where she spent the money, how much she spent it, why she spent it. No, absolutely not. Allow her to spend it wherever she wants (within the limits of Sharia).
@hafizaftab