Hello friends Happy Sunday and I hope you guys are enjoying your day.
In the country where I stay, society sees it as a taboo for a girl to ask a guy out. I heard of a country where a woman can even go marry a man and even pay his groom price. Would really love to visit there.
I have had this conversation with my female friends. Many were like they can't while few can. I also asked a few of my male friends and some were like they would like it and even value the lady for her boldness and courage by opening up. Another said he won't accept because it's a guy thing to ask a lady.
I can't judge them for their reply to people who are entitled to their opinion.
To me I think it's Complicated. making the first move of asking a guy out it's even a bad idea but on a first date I think it's a big NO to me. First, I'm this kind of shy person. Yeah I might get comfortable with time.
But to be sincere I value my self respect as a lady.
If I like a guy, the way I ask should let him know. I would prefer he does the asking out to be sure he's into me.
I really like relationships built on friendship, there is no need rushing on asking out if you can build a solid foundation. Even a guy asking me out on a first day is a turn off to me. Let me get to know you first.
I know of many people who were doing very well in friendship and the moment they got into a relationship everything they built was destroyed.
If I like a guy, I will take time to know where I stand in his life. I hate rejections and even him saying No to me will hurt me badly so I would rather be in a better place without hurting myself.
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