If you experienced failure early in life you were already very lucky you suddenly become mentally stronger once you understand that acting like a victim doesn't improve your life and that you're alone be wary of people who actually were always victim in all their stories.
Conversation are about understanding someone else's perspective not showing off your knowledge. Most people don't lack talents they lack commitment never assume you know better.
You just because you're older in the world of today people who can't unlearn fast are burdened by their own experience you end up average when you are distracted by everything.
I cannot commit to anything it takes intelligence to me take any to take things personally never apologize for refusing to lower your blood standard to 15.