Nobody will give you the respect you want if you do not give yourself the respect you deserve. Many people are not conscious to ascertain that regardless of who someone is to them or how close and carefree the person is, they deserve some atom of respect from them.
Due to over-familiarity which they say breeds contempt, people are likely to lose respect for such persons, and let's be real, everyone no matter the age or how young they are deserves respect from whomever or whoever. The manner they are treated, and the manner they are spoken to, respect is needed, of course, we are humans, so we tend to feel less or inferior if certain people or people in general do otherwise around us.
It also struck me when I read somewhere that respect is earned not given, and if you do not respect yourself, nobody will respect you too.
The respect you’re looking for, give it to yourself first. No matter the number of warnings or complaints that you give, it will not change how they think, see you, and treat you, and until you realize that nothing you say will make them see you as someone to accord respect to, you will continue to complain or give warnings to these set of people.
Take the bull by the horns, take actions where necessary like calling out disrespectful comments directed towards you, and not smiling at derogatory jokes towards you or anyone even if it is funny.
Limit your availability and look for a good and respectful cycle where even if they are your friends, they know boundaries and know that regardless that we are friends, respect is to be accepted by everyone, don't feel comfortable around the cycle of friends that don't understand respect for one another because you can not predict them.
We understand that when these actions start to play out, there is a chance that they will walk away but it doesn't matter, as long as you regain your well-deserved respect and also start by respecting yourself. So, if you ever think that friends, family, spouse, or colleagues are disrespecting you, I think you should look inward, you enable the disrespect.
You deserve to be respected, everyone deserves to be respected. So do well to choose yourself and respect yourself first before you go asking or demanding for one.
Selah!!!
