This is a vital question, either way your answer would change the whole course of your life. In my honest opinion, abortion would not going to be an option just because of the uncertain consequences, the trauma and the guilt. Keeping the child despite the obvious consequences will always be the best option.
I have given this a deep thought but came to the conclusion that keeping the pregnancy is the best course to take. I decided to put myself in the fury shoes of Sandra whose choice was abortion but the baby refused to be aborted and now her bond with her child is like that of a woman who has been married for over 15 years without a baby only for her to receive the blessing of a child after the difficult years of waiting. It is very easy to make irrational decisions in such a situation. From the moment it dawned on me that I am pregnant, my reaction would be that of shock and fear. The hardest five minutes of my life on realisation. How would I cope with a child? A lot of questions would juggle in my head of which I had no answer to. I might want to seek answers using the search engine before opening up to anyone.
My reasons for keeping the
pregnancy are cogent and
reasonable.
Abortion is a womb and life daring risk. I wouldn't want to go through that trauma.
Tantrums, stigmatisation and judgement wouldn't last forever but my child would be my comfort and happiness at all times.
I know the coming of my child would derail everything I have worked for but that doesn't mean
opportunity wouldn't find me again, right?
I know keeping the child would be anxiety and depression inducing but I know I will heal.
Even when the stigma would not leave, the bond and memories you share with your child would beautify your ugly stigma.
I know little about the discomfort of the physical side effects, it is a challenging situation and might cause me to have a rethink but then again it is only for a while and it will fade away like it never happened.
And also it will be a learning process for me, the experience would hold a sense of clarity enabling me to make timely and hard decisions.
All these I have mentioned might be difficult for me but I'm sure with the positive support I get from families and friends, it will definitely make it easier.
But in a situation where I am young, unsure and I cannot look after myself not to talk of a child in my womb, I would give the child up for adoption or bless a waiting home which I wouldn't regret in the long run. At least I would not have to die of guilt from abortion just because of the unexpected bump of life.
Children are perfect gift from God and as such should be treasured and valued beyond anything else.
