Hello Weekend-Experiences friends, I hope you are having a good week that is almost over. This week's questions are quite interesting, and I think I chose the hardest one to answer. However, from my perspective, I have always wanted to talk about this topic as a woman, being able to better understand the circumstances under which a woman "should or should not" have an abortion.
What's your view on abortion and why?
I believe that each of us as women should have the free right to choose what to do with our bodies and our own lives. If we look at the case of a woman who gets pregnant and is considering a possible abortion, I can understand her for various reasons. There are reasons that require a lot of courage for a woman to decide to make the choice to have an abortion—among them, an unwanted pregnancy or one resulting from sexual abuse.
Both are different. In an unwanted pregnancy, there may be a lack of information when using contraceptives or practicing responsible sexuality. This can happen whether you are a teenager or even an adult. Although we think we might know everything as we get older, the reality is that we don't know how we are going to react to the news of a possible pregnancy. However, this does not justify having multiple abortions simply due to not having taken proper care during sexual relations.
If it is the result of rape, the woman should have the right to choose whether to bring a child into the world under these conditions, because the child will likely be rejected even before birth. If born, they will have a rather miserable life—who knows if she will give the baby up for adoption or leave them in precarious conditions, such as abandoning them on the street. Many women have done this as a result of receiving little support in such a critical situation, both for the pregnant woman and the baby.
And not to mention if the woman suffers from a mental health problem or a disability. Under these conditions, as a society and as a family, we have to be aware that it is best for the woman not to have children. How would it be possible for her to care for a baby without even being able to care for herself? It is a very complicated topic, although a few exceptions have been seen where people with physical—but not mental—disabilities have started a family and received support from both close relatives and their countries' governments.
What do I think if it were to happen to me? Well, I have really always been very clear that I do not want children, or at least that's how I feel for now. If it happens to someone close to me and they have the idea of wanting to abort the baby because they lack the health, resources, time, or capacity to raise a child, then I would tell them to seek non-clandestine ways to get an abortion. Having a baby should not be an obligation, but I do think taking better care of oneself after that first experience is essential to avoid falling into a cycle of repeatedly getting abortions just because.
I do not judge any woman who has thought about or undergone an abortion. It is a deeply personal decision that no one other than the woman can make. No one else can truly make that choice because no one else is going to take on all the responsibilities that come with bringing a child into the world. However, I think there should be more open talks and conversations with young people about sexual responsibility, necessary precautions, and family planning before attempting to have relationships or being irresponsible with their choices. That is my opinion: to be responsible with our bodies and not allow external comments to make our lives harder, simply listening openly to advice from people with life experience and living responsibly.
I hope you liked this post, and I would also like you to leave me your comments; I will gladly read them and will respond to them. Big hugs. 🤗
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