Freeing yourself from disrespectful behavior !

Hello HIVE community!

Today I'm going to talk about a subject that affects many of us: how to gain respect and assert yourself in front of others. You know that feeling that others don't give you the attention you deserve, or that you're always the good guy? Well, you're not alone! For the first 20 years of my life, I was extremely shy and found it hard to command respect. But I've learned, and today I'm going to share with you my secrets for developing more fulfilling and assertive social relationships.

The first step is to understand the concept of the “integrity zone”. Your zone of integrity is the space between what you tolerate and what you don't tolerate from others. The problem is that people will always test the limits of this zone, to see how far they can go. And that's when your reaction becomes crucial. If you let people enter your zone of integrity without reacting, they'll go on and disrespect you. But if you say “no”, you set your limits and show that you're prepared to enter into conflict to protect your integrity.

There are two types of disrespect: unconscious disrespect and conscious disrespect. The first often comes from your friends, who may taunt you in public, make you wait, or ask you for favors all the time. In this case, it's important to learn to say “no” firmly and without justification. Confront them with their behavior and explain what's bothering you.

The second type of disrespect, conscious disrespect, is worse. It comes from people who want to hurt you, whether through insults or harassment. When dealing with these people, never show any sign of submission, such as smiling, lowering your eyes or cowering. On the contrary, adopt a relaxed, non-verbal language. And if that's not enough, analyze the system that binds you to this person. Ask yourself: what am I doing that encourages this behavior? And how can I change it?

Remember, kindness doesn't pay. If you want to be respected, you must dare to say “no” and enter into conflict when necessary. Don't be afraid to confront others with their disrespectful behavior. And if someone wants to hurt you, never show any sign of weakness. Analyze the system and change your behavior to short-circuit theirs.

That's it, my friends, I hope you've enjoyed these lines.

See you soon!