Reading the Norse Sagas and Edda's around the fire in my long hall whilst sipping mead from a horn-cup always brings me value and relevant meaning; I thought to share some.
I don't actually have a Viking long hall, but I have a fire and mead so it works. Either way, the reading is valuable. Also I'm putting together a fleet to go raiding in Britain so need warriors and shield maidens; if you're interested apply below in the comments. I'm serious, it's happening. I've got a reliable man on the inside laying the foundations for conquest so success is assured. No health benefits included but if you die we'll burn you on a pyre, so all good. original im src
Eyes cannot hide a woman’s love for a man. - Saga of Gunnlaugur Serpent-Tongue
They say eyes are the windows to the soul. Eyes are expressive and change with mood so it makes sense that through the eyes one's inner most, or true, feelings can be revealed.
A furrowed brow that makes the eyes smaller when one is worried, the bright demeanor one presents when happy and ones eyebrows raise making the eyes larger - Either way mood, or other emotions and thoughts, are revealed and confirmed.
Have you heard the phrase, she had a smile that touched her eyes. When one smiles genuinely that's what happens, the eyes become expressive. We can fake the mouth-movement of a smile yes, but if it doesn't touch the eyes it often comes across as disingenuous. That's the power of eyes, I guess, from a communication perspective anyway.
I once knew a girl whose blue eyes changed with her mood. Clear blue and I'm all good, slate blue/grey and trouble is on the horizon, or already arrived. It was quite amazing and pretty helpful - If you've never looked into eyes that do that do yourself a favour. My mum had blue eyes also and hers did the same...Unfortunately when I was a kid I was often subjected to the latter, the storm-eyes, as I was sometimes often in a little trouble.
I like eyes, although not my own; I hate my eyes in truth, hate them! Someone made a comment a couple days ago that I tend to have my Oakley's on my face a lot probably indicating that they form part of my suit of armour...Yes, exactly. I hide behind my sunglasses mostly although there's times when it's not appropriate.
I never keep my Oakley's on when talking directly with a person generally, not at times when I need to be believable, come across as trustworthy or convince someone of a concept they possibly may question; when I'm selling as such. I need to be believed in and, understanding the power eyes have, I make sure the glasses are off.
A mouth can smile, can speak words, but it's the eyes that lend credibility and strength to the words and that's what this quote says to me - The importance of eye contact.
Over the years I've done work on communication skills including body language, reading it and commanding my own.
Maintaining eye-contact is a key factor in effective communication...Although too much of it is a little off-putting. If someone stared directly into your eyes non-stop during a conversation it would not work out so well. Interestingly there's [generally] three different focus-points forming triangles upon the person one talks with - the appropriate place for the eyes to look depending on the situation.
The professional focus-point is a tight triangle between their eyes and just above the bridge of the nose. I'll be using this in my upcoming interviews. The gaze is held about 80% of the time and the eyes are off the person, wandering, for the other 20% of the time. (Not wandering to the cleavage though, just off the person's face and so on. That's normal as eyes move around in a person's head as they think.
The social focus-point is a more open triangle the point of which is the middle of the person's forehead and covers basically the entire face. Again the 80/20 gaze-percentage applies. This might be used in casual social encounters and can develop into the third below, depending on how things transpire.
The intimate focus-point is a larger triangular area again, out to the shoulders and all the way down to just above the chest area. This is obviously to be deployed with caution...Wandering eyes may not always be welcome. The person looking will allow the eyes to rove about in that zone and if they perceive their opposite doing the same, responding to it with words and body language, things may progress from there. Fellows, if this is accompanied by the woman tilting her head to one side and playing with her hair...All good bros! [But that's a different post.]
I enjoy learning about body language as it has given me a distinct edge in life, business and personal matters, through reading people more effectively and being able to punctuate what I say with the appropriate body language to make me seem more believable, trustworthy, intense, friendly, engaged, angry, turned on, shocked, disinterested, sad, crazy, happy and so on. The eyes are pivotal to that.
A person's eyes can say what they're afraid or reluctant to say in words and can give greater meaning to words they speak. [Think the dilated pupils of an aroused woman saying, take me now you big hunk of a man. Carries more weight with the eye thing for sure right?] Eyes can also confirm a lie, or disingenuous words...In short...Eyes. Legit. Fuck I love eyes! [Not my own though remember - I hate those.]
Eyes offer valuable information that can help one understand other people or to make one more understandable. I think the Vikings were onto something with this one.
This is how I've chosen to interpret this quote today however I'm sure there's other ways to see it and if you would like to give me your opinion below in the comments I'll be really pleased. Agree with me or not, it doesn't matter, just get involved.
Skol.
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