Estoy muy segura de que en varias ocasiones he realizado uno que otro chiste con respecto a mi eterna soltería y de cómo nunca he tenido un novio. A pesar de que esto a veces es un juego, existen otros momentos en los que si me siento sensible con respecto al tema, aún así, con el tiempo aprendí que eso de "mejor sola que mal acompañada" era mucho más que un dicho, hoy en día lo considero la mejor forma de resguardar algo que para mí es sagrado: Mi paz y estabilidad emocional, pues he trabajado en estos aspectos de mil maneras y mientras más crezco, más noto que no planeo ponerlo en riesgo por algo que no valga la pena. Así que el día de hoy les contaré algunas actitudes que espero que existan en caso de llegar a tener una relación de pareja.
I'm pretty sure that on several occasions I've made a joke or two about my eternal singleness and how I've never had a boyfriend. Although this is sometimes a game, there are other times when I feel sensitive about the subject, even so, over time I learned that "better alone than in bad company" was much more than a saying, today I consider it the best way to protect something that is sacred to me: My peace and emotional stability, because I have worked on these aspects in a thousand ways and the more I grow, the more I notice that I do not plan to put it at risk for something that is not worth it. So today I will tell you about some attitudes that I hope will exist in case I get into a relationship.
Respect is one of the most important emotions that can exist, both for oneself and for other people. From it comes honesty, loyalty, fidelity, love, admiration and an endless number of emotions, and hence my idea of seeing it as a fundamental pillar. So in a relationship I consider it is almost as important as love, even more. Well, I have seen many people love but disrespect their loved one both in front and behind their back, and yes, there is love, but at the end of the day I feel that it is not worth, if you do not respect. I can tell you that I have had one or another suitor that I have liked a lot at the first time, but then I notice that he does not respect my schedule, my words and even my feelings, and that is when I decide to let him go, because if at that moment of "courtship" he does not respect the simplest things, what can I expect in a relationship?
I once read that "to love is to admire with the heart and to admire is to love with the mind". For me it is very, very important to have by my side a person to admire and to feel admired by. It seems to me that this emotion goes hand in hand with respect, but also with the pride of having someone by your side who inspires you. Personally I love to see how people surpass themselves, how they overcome obstacles and achieve their goals, so I would like even more, to see that next to me is a person who is not afraid of adversity, but that is nourished by it to move forward and flourish, because in a way (without wanting to sound conceited) I do the same.
On many occasions I have also mentioned how romantic I am and how much I love the idea of love, I am quite sensitive about the subject and I love to read about that love that shakes you and makes you see the world in a different way. For this reason I obviously believe that a couple relationship must have love as one of its main motives, it is what will unite these two people and what will keep them together when there are disagreements or difficulties, yet another very important part of love is reciprocity, being able to give without fear of wearing yourself out because you know that you will also receive. In short, having someone by your side who loves you, prioritizes you and decides that you deserve a lot without you having to ask for it all the time, is super important to me in a relationship.
Knowing how to express myself without being too direct is one of the things I have had the hardest time learning (I still do). Even so, for a couple relationship you need a lot of communication, to know how to talk and listen, to process and accept what is said, to be able to respect it and work according to it. I learned this because there was a time when my friends and I came to the conclusion that saying what made us uncomfortable was the most important thing for good communication, the problem was that over time we also realized that you can say a thousand things, but if the person next to you decides not to listen to you or listen to you and ignore you, then you will never get anywhere and there will never be trust (without which it is not worth having a relationship) and neither will there be complicity, which in my opinion is one of the most beautiful things that a couple can have.
Y bueno, estás fueron algunas de las cosas principales que espero en una relación, se que son bastante básicas, pero considero que si no existen estas pequeñas pero muy importantes actitudes, no vale la pena invertir más tiempo o esfuerzo en una relación. Aparte, de estos sentimientos nacen muchos más, pero sin ellos poco podemos hacer. Entonces a partir de experiencias personales (y ajenas) aprendí poco a poco lo que quiero y necesito de la persona que decida estar a mi lado.... Si llegaste hasta aquí:
And well, these were some of the main things I expect in a relationship, I know they are quite basic, but I consider that if there are not these small but very important attitudes, it is not worth investing more time or effort in a relationship. Besides, from these feelings many more are born, but without them we can do little. So from personal experiences (and others) I learned little by little what I want and need from the person who decides to be at my side.... If you made it this far:
Edición: Canva y CC Express // Edition: Canva and CC Express
Traducción: Deepl. // Traslation: Deepl.
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