馃挄HOLA QUERIDOS AMIGOS馃挄
馃挄HELLO DEAR FRIENDS馃挄
Muchos de nosotros tropezamos desde peque帽os: caemos, nos levantamos, tambaleamos y lo seguimos intentando, en este proceso, muchos de mis seres queridos me han dejado una que otra ense帽anza, poniendo palabras sabias en mi coraz贸n, que trato de recordar siempre que es necesario, el amor, la sinceridad, el respeto, la aceptaci贸n y la perseverancia, son palabras que suenas f谩ciles pero no lo son, a煤n as铆 trato de llevarlas conmigo cada d铆a lo mejor que puedo. El d铆a de hoy decid铆 darles a ustedes algunos consejos que han cambiado mi vida para mejor, as铆 que, aqu铆 vamos:
Many of us stumble since we were little: we fall, we get up, we stagger and we keep trying, in this process, many of my loved ones have left me one or another teaching, putting wise words in my heart, that I try to remember whenever it is necessary, love, sincerity, respect, acceptance and perseverance, are words that sound easy but they are not, yet I try to carry them with me every day as best as I can. Today I decided to give you some tips that have changed my life for the better, so here we go:
No hay amistades perfectas, pero si amistades sinceras
There are no perfect friendships, but there are sincere friendships.
Este consejo me lo di贸 
@jesusfermin ... Y desde que me lo di贸 cambio mucho mi perspectiva sobre la amistad, porque de nada te vale tener la "amistad perfecta" si en esa amistad no puedes ser t煤 mismo, no puedes decir lo que te duele, te molesta o incomoda, por miedo a herirle el ego a alguien. He tenido situaciones que han tratado de cambiar mi percepci贸n sobre la sinceridad, pero a煤n una peque帽a parte de mi se mantiene fiel a si misma y se niega a mentir solo para agradar a otros, a煤n as铆 s茅 que mi sinceridad puede llegar a herir, pero eso es algo de lo que hablar茅 en otro momento. La cosa aqu铆 es: Si necesitas tener una m谩scara para mantener esa amistad, mejor terminala, llegar谩n personas a tu vida que valorar谩n, tu sinceridad, tus esfuerzos, tu cari帽o y te rega帽ar谩n hasta el cansancio cuando est茅s equivocado, te dir谩n lo que hiciste mal, y te mantendr谩n cerca por lo aut茅ntico que hay en ti. Te lo dice la voz de la experiencia, quien a callado, re铆do y llorado con una m谩scara, y que en otros lugares es conocida y amada por ser ella misma.
Ya lo de aprender d贸nde est谩n los l铆mites de los dem谩s, aprender a controlarte y aprender cuidar a tus amigos, vendr谩 cuando puedan comunicarse, porque como les digo, no hay amistades perfectas, pero si amistades que saben decirte su verdad
@jesusfermin ... Y desde que me lo di贸 cambio mucho mi perspectiva sobre la amistad, porque de nada te vale tener la "amistad perfecta" si en esa amistad no puedes ser t煤 mismo, no puedes decir lo que te duele, te molesta o incomoda, por miedo a herirle el ego a alguien. He tenido situaciones que han tratado de cambiar mi percepci贸n sobre la sinceridad, pero a煤n una peque帽a parte de mi se mantiene fiel a si misma y se niega a mentir solo para agradar a otros, a煤n as铆 s茅 que mi sinceridad puede llegar a herir, pero eso es algo de lo que hablar茅 en otro momento. La cosa aqu铆 es: Si necesitas tener una m谩scara para mantener esa amistad, mejor terminala, llegar谩n personas a tu vida que valorar谩n, tu sinceridad, tus esfuerzos, tu cari帽o y te rega帽ar谩n hasta el cansancio cuando est茅s equivocado, te dir谩n lo que hiciste mal, y te mantendr谩n cerca por lo aut茅ntico que hay en ti. Te lo dice la voz de la experiencia, quien a callado, re铆do y llorado con una m谩scara, y que en otros lugares es conocida y amada por ser ella misma.
Ya lo de aprender d贸nde est谩n los l铆mites de los dem谩s, aprender a controlarte y aprender cuidar a tus amigos, vendr谩 cuando puedan comunicarse, porque como les digo, no hay amistades perfectas, pero si amistades que saben decirte su verdad
This advice was given to me by @jesusfermin .... And since he gave it to me it has changed my perspective on friendship, because it's worthless to have the "perfect friendship" if in that friendship you can't be yourself, you can't say what hurts you, bothers you or makes you uncomfortable, for fear of hurting someone's ego. I have had situations that have tried to change my perception about sincerity, but still a small part of me stays true to myself and refuses to lie just to please others, yet I know that my sincerity can hurt, but that's something I'll talk about another time. The thing here is: If you need to have a mask to keep that friendship, better end it, people will come into your life who will value your sincerity, your efforts, your affection and will scold you to exhaustion when you are wrong, will tell you what you did wrong, and will keep you close because of what is authentic in you. This is the voice of experience, who has been silent, laughed and cried with a mask, and who in other places is known and loved for being herself.
Learning where the limits of others are, learning to control yourself and learning to take care of your friends, will come when you can communicate, because as I say, there are no perfect friendships, but there are friendships that know how to tell you their truth.
@jesusfermin .... And since he gave it to me it has changed my perspective on friendship, because it's worthless to have the "perfect friendship" if in that friendship you can't be yourself, you can't say what hurts you, bothers you or makes you uncomfortable, for fear of hurting someone's ego. I have had situations that have tried to change my perception about sincerity, but still a small part of me stays true to myself and refuses to lie just to please others, yet I know that my sincerity can hurt, but that's something I'll talk about another time. The thing here is: If you need to have a mask to keep that friendship, better end it, people will come into your life who will value your sincerity, your efforts, your affection and will scold you to exhaustion when you are wrong, will tell you what you did wrong, and will keep you close because of what is authentic in you. This is the voice of experience, who has been silent, laughed and cried with a mask, and who in other places is known and loved for being herself.
Learning where the limits of others are, learning to control yourself and learning to take care of your friends, will come when you can communicate, because as I say, there are no perfect friendships, but there are friendships that know how to tell you their truth.
Abraza tus cargas | Embrace your burdens
Este consejo ya lo he mencionado antes, pero siempre lo recalco porque me sorprende como de cosas tan sencillas podemos sacar grandes reflexiones. Mi mam谩 y yo siempre que vamos al supermercado y tenemos una bolsa que es muy pesada nos decimos "Abrazala, as铆 pesa menos" ... Y hasta hace poco de verdad no me hab铆a dado cuenta de la realidad en esas palabras. Muchas veces tenemos cargas personales que no podemos soltar, una enfermedad, un trabajo, los estudios, todas estas cosas crean situaciones d贸nde solo te provoca salir corriendo y no mirar atr谩s, pero 驴C贸mo huyes de una enfermedad? 驴C贸mo escapas de tu carrera si te apasiona y solo est谩s pasando por una mala racha? ... Aqu铆 es donde entra mi consejo, abraza tu problema, acepta tu enfermedad, acepta que no siempre ser谩s el mejor o las cosas pasar谩n como t煤 deseas, respira profundo y piensa "Si lo acepto ser谩 m谩s f谩cil". Obviamente este consejo no siempre es aplicable, porque no todas las situaciones son iguales, pero en caso de saber que lo que quieres est谩 detr谩s de una dificultad que sabes que puedes soportar, entonces abraza este problema, te aseguro que pesar谩 menos.
I have already mentioned this advice before, but I always emphasize it because it amazes me how from such simple things we can get great reflections. My mom and I always say to each other whenever we go to the supermarket and we have a bag that is too heavy, "Hug it, so it weighs less" .... And until recently I really didn't realize the reality of those words. Many times we have personal burdens that we can't let go, an illness, a job, studies, all these things create situations where you just want to run away and not look back, but how do you run away from an illness? How do you run away from your career if you are passionate about it and you are just going through a bad patch? This is where my advice comes in, embrace your problem, accept your illness, accept that you won't always be the best or things will happen the way you want them to, take a deep breath and think "If I accept it it will be easier". Obviously this advice is not always applicable, because not all situations are the same, but in case you know that what you want is behind a difficulty that you know you can bear, then embrace this problem, I assure you that it will weigh less.
Aprende a soltar | Learn to let go
Es una virtud viajar con equipaje ligero, y no, no lo digo literalmente, sino en el sentido m谩s abstracto, cargar con nuestro rencor, el orgullo y situaciones del pasado siempre har谩n que tu viaje en esta vida sea m谩s lento, m谩s aburrido y tedioso. Aprender a perdonar es algo que me cost贸 much铆simo, pero con el tiempo aprend铆 a ser el tipo de personas que vive la frustraci贸n y el dolor en ese momento, para luego dejarlo ir y no volver. Todas las emociones merecen ser sentidas, incluso las m谩s feas, eso no quiere decir que tengas que enfrascarte en unas o en otras, al final del d铆a subir y bajar es parte de la vida, y lo 煤nico seguro aparte de la muerte, es el cambio. As铆 que aprende a soltar, aprende a empacar ligero, a llevarte lo positivo de las situaciones y a dejar ir lo que solo puede hundirte, recuerda que cuando perdonas algo, lo haces por ti, no por los dem谩s, y que no por eso tienes que olvidar las cosas, solo tienes que aprender de ellas sin tener el rencor de por medio.
It is a virtue to travel with light baggage, and no, I don't mean that literally, but in the most abstract sense, carrying our grudge, pride and past situations will always make your journey in this life slower, more boring and tedious. Learning to forgive is something that cost me a lot, but over time I learned to be the type of person who lives the frustration and pain in that moment, and then let it go and not come back. All emotions deserve to be felt, even the ugliest ones, that doesn't mean you have to get caught up in one or the other, at the end of the day going up and down is part of life, and the only sure thing other than death, is change. So learn to let go, learn to pack light, to take the positive from situations and let go of what can only sink you, remember that when you forgive something, you do it for you, not for others, and that does not mean you have to forget things, you just have to learn from them without holding a grudge.
Y bueno esos fueron algunos consejos que he aprendido a lo largo de mi corta vida, s茅 que muchos de ellos los habr谩s escuchado en alguna parte, a煤n as铆 me gusta dar mi percepci贸n al respecto, mi conclusi贸n para ti es: vive, r铆e, disfruta, llora, sufre, s茅 t煤 mismo y en el proceso cuida de qui茅n te quiere y quiere a qui茅n te cuida馃挄. Si llegaste hasta aqu铆:
And well those were some tips that I have learned throughout my short life, I know that many of them you may have heard somewhere, still I like to give my perception about it, my conclusion for you is: live, laugh, enjoy, cry, suffer, be yourself and in the process take care of who loves you and loves who cares for you馃挄. If you made it this far:
Gracias por leerme y hasta un pr贸ximo post
Thanks for reading and see you in a future post
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