Lean On Me🫂

Sometimes in our lives we all have pain
We all have sorrow

But if we are wise
We know that there's always tomorrow
Lean on me, when you're not strong
And I'll be your friend
I'll help you carry on

For it won't be long
'Til I'm gonna need
Somebody to lean on
Please swallow your pride
If I have things you need to borrow
For no one can fill those of your needs
That you won't let show

I had a conversation with a friend days ago, which not only made me dig up the lyrics above but also made me go ahead to play the song for her.

I happened to assist her in difficult situations, and while she really appreciates my help, she kind of felt as if her ego and pride were bruised. I understand where she was coming from. When you have been let down by people in the past, or simply you don't like bothering others with your problems, asking for help when in need becomes like a Hercules task.

You tell yourself, "No, you can go through this alone, you don't need to bother anyone," while you wallow and struggle in silence.

It's not good for you. It's self-sabotage and can hinder one's growth.
When we don't know how to draw the line between feeling like we are a burden on people who can render us help and knowing when to let people in and assist, it can hinder us from achieving things we ought to achieve.

I had to remind this my friend that it's okay to ask for help when we can't help ourselves. We all need help someday, and she should learn to start getting used to it.

I used to be like this my friend, until I met someone who taught me that I do not need to rely only on myself all the time. Without speaking a word, her actions and way of life show it's okay to lean on someone without feeling inadequate or less of ourselves. She taught me there is a wisdom behind knowing when to ask for a helping hand or a shoulder to lean on, and it's okay.

Nobody is an island, no one can go far alone, and that is why God has created every one of His creations in pairs. Because no matter who we are, or our status, everyone needs somebody sometimes.

So the next time you need a helping hand or a shoulder to lean on, and the right people are there to help you, do not let your pride get in the way. It's okay to lean on someone, for it won't be long before they will need your help as well.

What more can I say? This legend, "Bill Withers"—may his gentle soul continue to rest in peace—captured in his song Lean on Me why we shouldn't let our pride get in the way when we truly need someone and have someone to lean on.

And today, I lost someone dear to my heart through childbearing which makes this lyrics hit differently.