Planning a call is the most difficult because partners communicate clearly and sound like they are on the same page. However, if you look closely, you can see that they are not paying attention to each other because they are always planning what to do next.
The wedding, the next shopping, the next kid, the next vacation, the next bill, etc. The problem with scheduling a meeting is that it's necessary for the relationship, but it's not just the meeting that matters. Usually one partner does all the planning and leads the discussion, while the others are busy executing projects. Both never end, so they are done. Every big plan creates many smaller plans that need to be implemented.
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Unlike persistent conversations, planned conversations create the illusion of unity. Partners feel they are on the same page, on the same team, and want the same things until they run out of things to plan or one partner can't stand it anymore. a busy couple who keep everyone together until all the children are gone and the couple don't know what to do with each other.They are like roommates wondering what happened to them I feel Planning calls are often stressful for couples, as plans for the future often imply that the future will be better than today: that you make more money. To receive the following promotions. Most plans are based on future expectations that have not yet been realized, and emphasize the need for partners to meet those expectations in order for the couple to realize their plans.
With planning calls dominating the relationship, it goes from 'honey, I didn't get the promotion' to 'I don't want to do much this year. If you trust your partner, you don't want to disappoint or disappoint your partner. Planning meetings tear partners apart when there is no more room to share a small inconvenience. Over time, small annoyances grow to the point where you can't hide them.
The saddest thing about planning a meeting is that when one partner can't take it anymore and wants to leave, the other is caught off guard. "I don't know, we wanted the same thing, we were planning for the future, we were making plans..." Unfortunately, the answer is that you only have a plan.
