Too much JUICE, Too much SAUCE ♥ Have you ever been in that love situation where you’ve got this great thing going on with your partner, and after the first three, six months, and most times after a year of the new relationship things just slowly started to get boring and you can’t figure out why? You know, at some point from nowhere your partner just starts becoming critical of you for no apparent reason, those things that used to interest them like calling, texting and chatting don’t seem to interest them anymore as now they can go days, weeks, and even months without keeping in touch and they won’t even bother. Overall things just starts to get a little sour, and you are left wondering why they don’t love you anymore. Do you know why things get boring too quickly? It is almost always because the two of you are basically “SUFFOCATING” each other. It is a basic human reaction that when you've got something great going on you’ll want to devote all your time to it, and we do the same with our relationships. We are always together, eat together, spend hours talking on the phone till there’s nothing left to say, leave your friends and lock yourselves up to be together, go to the toilet together, hmmm, some people even go as far as taking a bath together, or moving in to live together because the relationship is getting too sweet. At first the both of you are enthusiastic about spending time with each other, the early love becomes like an aphrodisiac shaking your brain, in the heat of those moments you feel “arrhhh, this is the one I want to spend the rest of my life with.” Hey guys, spending “too much” time together is a relationship killer, after the first few months these things begins to wear out, little by little ten calls reduces to five, then to two, then to one phone call at 10pm everyday as an obligation, then to one dry 'how are you' text a week. I'm not asking you to create a life that excludes your partner, to stubbornly refuse to hang-out together, or to spend more time apart than you do together. I am just trying to encourage you to hang on to the things that made you happy before you two started dating, things like hanging out with your friends, playing video games, watching football, spending your holidays with family, and all other great stuff that made you really happy before you guys met. Don’t give them up for the sake of a new relationship, you had a life before all the romance and love letters started buzzing your inbox, the purpose of a relationship is to help each other become better FIRSTLY as individuals, and then jointly as a UNIT. For a relationship with a marriage goal there’ll always be plenty of time to always be together, but while building please, cut out all those together-together things you do, wearing identical cloths, dissing your close friends to stay indoors all wrapped up in each other's arms, and all those other things that feels like fun from the start. Trust me, these things last longer when they come naturally.
