When people meet me for the first time, they usually think that I am a very extravert woman who loves to party. After they start talking with me, they find out immediately it's the opposite. They will get very surprised that I am actually not so talkative as they thought I would be. Not that I don't talk at all, but I just talk when I think that I can say something meaningful. I wouldn't be able to tell someone what I think about the weather. When the person is suddenly talking about a very interesting topic, then I talk a lot. I remember in the past when I worked as a waitress in a restaurant as a part time job as a student. My colleagues and a friend of mine often asked me after work to join them to the club. I always rejected because I just don't the crowd, music too loud and drunken people. I also like to go to bed latest 12 PM. If you ask me how often I have been in a club, you will get shocked. I went to the club only 2 times in my life. Those 2 times were when I was engaged with my husband. How I felt after going to the club? I never wanted to go to the club ever again.
Most introverts( MOST, in case you disagree) don't like to socialize much. We can socialize, but we have a limit. Introverts only talk when it's necessary to people or when we think what we say has added value. They have no desire to have a small talk with strangers or people they know. We are not rude, but we just want to be alone. It doesn't means that if someone ask me for help, that I wouldn't want to help. I am a helpful person, so being anti-social doesn't mean I am rude or don't have feelings. I also don't talk much with other mums at my kids's school. I just bring and pick up my kids to and from school.
Introverts don't have many friends or they one good friend or no friends at all. I have to say I have no friends. Do I feel lonely? No, not at all. I can go easily shopping or travelling without having a friend with me. I had one friend in the past, but she talked way too much and didn't let me talk at all. She can text me so many things with Whatsapp, but when it was my turn sending her a text message, I don't get a reply or I get a reply after a few days or a week. I don't think I can call her a friend, right?
My sister is an extravert herself and said once that my life sounds boring. She even thinks I feel lonely and recommend me to hang out with other moms from my kids school. She doesn't understand that it is something I would avoid for sure. If I would get invited to meet some moms at someone's house, I would maybe go once. But once invited I would like to go home after an hour. My sister and me are so different. My sister really needs people around her to be happy. While me, I can feel happy being alone. I am not shy as extraverts think. Introvert has nothing to do with being shy. Introverts aren't shy at all.
I usually don't ask people for help. I try to solve my problems alone. It's not that I don't want to look weak when asking for help. I just feel when I ask people for help, that I disturb them, and that is something I don't want.
People often think that introverts are week and that we are shy and feel lonely. None of that is true. We are actually strong because we don't need people around us to feel happy. We are not easily getting depressed. Being alone feels actually as if we have our best friend with us, which is ourself. We can easily go to dining at a restaurant alone or travel alone without feeling bored or lonely.
