Hey sis!! "Look at my result card, I came third in my class".
These were the words of my cousin who was in sixth grade and got 90% marks.
"Nah He has not got any good marks. If he had worked hard, he could have got full marks۔ I would be happy if he did well and came first in his class. I am not satisfied with the third position." (A bomb fell on me by her mother's words).
And I could clearly see frustration on that child's face. He Disappointed and went into the room. (Ohh heartbroken child 🥺)
Don't you think that this child should be commended for his hard work?
Obviously yess!!
But, When children are treated like this, believe me, they will lose motivation to move forward. Never compare your child with others. Not every child has the same mind level. If two children are spending the same amount of time on their studies, one child is taking an average number and the other child is taking a position, then never hurt your child's heart at such mentality.
And this appreciation is important not only for children but for people of all ages. Don't you think that, people who work hard in day and night but are shattered from the inside by saying that "your work could have been better than that?" I believe that when the next person hears these words, he will instantly consider himself a loser.
(Sighs)
We destroy people's hard work in an instant.
Why appreciation is important?
Appreciation develop confidence,
If a person works hard but he can't fulfill your intentions, please applaud him instead of degrade. So that confidence is established in him. And if things don't work out that way for you, then tell him in a partisan way. Your style will inspire him to do better. Because if you get angry at him for his first mistake, he will give up. He will understand that no matter how hard he tries, he has to be rejected.
I remember when I made omelette for the first time in my life, it had a lot of salt in it. But my father praised me a lot. I still remember his words to me.
"Beta (daughter), you have made a very delicious omelette. If the salt in it is a little more, it doesn't matter, you make it better next time."
In this line, he increased my confidence, praised me, and also told me my mistake in a very honour way.
Appreciation also builds trust in a person. It makes people's feel valued.
And do you know what value we can give to people by praising others?
We can make them happy. Yes, we can bring happiness to people's faces. A small compliment becomes a great achievement for a human being. If my aunt had praised her son today, he would have worked harder than before. But I can say with certainty that many questions have arisen in the heart of her child. Well, I've explained a lot to my aunt. And she has understood. And if she learns to be happy with her child's success today, her child's future will be very bright.
Whenever your child or someone comes to you to express their happiness, rejoice in their happiness and appreciate them on their success.
