The word, "cheating" has gone viral, denoting from a spectrum, it has been used frequently, but fortunately not as much as the word, "love". In most relationships today, it has create a major scare amongst partners and it's effect normally endanger trust or breed negative results.
When a person cheat or is believed to have cheated, their partner begins to feel a sense of breach of vow or contravention to love and cherish, an inferiority complex or a disregard for their feelings which ever applies to the situation at that time, but cheaters have their own side to the story.
Before taking off shirt, stroking in between the two thighs of a woman, it has been war in the circle of love.
We all learnt from the movie, "Why do fools fall in love", but the question still remains, why do men cheat. Yes, without a doubt we quite savvy that most women cheat. It takes two to tangle, but men has it as a chronicle of books, opening pages and chapters, diverging different means to hookup and to get laid. When they're caught in the act the devil takes the blame. Actions are not far from consequences.
In the face of profoundly unwanted consequences the act has resulted to divorce, loss of social dignity and honesty, loss of parental communication, mislaid affection from both parents, family members and society.
The cheat factors.
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The child grows up becoming a man, we never thought about his upbringing. A child learn by listening and watching the parent. The foundation of a child should be the priority every parent. Most parent fail in the duty to bring up the child in the way he should go. Rightly speaking faithfulness, loyalty and honesty, love are basic foundation of learning and right of the child support, training him to become the man he should be.
I don't think it will be wrong for any parent to teach his male child that cheating is irresponsible and it destroys a relationship, it ruin the family.
Lax: When a child affection is corrupted he become loosen, comparing himself with other. The symptom of insecurity, low self esteem, selfishness and anger are the product of his terminal uniqueness. Failing to give proper attention puts the child in a random circle were he learns from the good and the bad. In most cases he learn the bad becoming a commander of evil.
The quest for male child
The pressure from family could become a major issue in marriage. We all know our family background. In Africa male children are heir to the throne, the male child extend the family name from generation to generation. This become a problem in the family when the wife is unable to give birth to a son. Who faults is it anyway? The husband might be in pressure to try something different. Most of the time, family pressure arises to take a second wife. With time you realise the family bond is broken. All you have is hatred and rejection, tales of tragedy, battle between wives, an unstable home. Here we are, the children has learn again from the parent.
Issues from past relationships
Broken relationships result in rejection, pain, trauma, hatred, anger. It can be a major setback in a new relationship if the issue is not properly handled, it could retard the growth of a family. It's often said that you don't put and old wine into the jar of a new wine. You must let go hurt, pain and take out every measure and thoughts of revenge.
Habits: In some cases some of the partners have some bad habit that becomes a punishment to the other partner like drinking,smoking,lots making him or her emotionally down. Trying to find help from a friend may cos an advantageous point or spot for either the ladies friend which is a male or female using that has a medium in winning him or her over. Once is done once its an act to cover up or been loved brings about continuity of cheating act.
For sexual exploration: Without prejudice to any particular gender, this factor is believed to be particularly common with the male folks. In a bid to satisfy sexual fantasies, he tend to elope with his concubines, following the common logic and a general quote by jilts, "It’s unfair for the tongue to often lick or eat the same soup everyday" –although this has attracted so many illogical, bias and outrageous interpretations. People often
complain that their partners no longer give them sufficient sexual pleasure, hence they are keen on trying out new things and so they go hunting. However there have been increasing cases of infidelity among women.
Other factors include;
Bowing to the power of seduction.
For financial or related gains.
As a deliberate way of getting at their spouse.
They are not happy in their present relationship and are hoping to find love.
I asked some of my co steemians to give us their point of view and they came up with these answers.
People cheat because of different reasons; some because they want more, some because they are being treated poorly, some because they just can't help but cheat.
People cheat because of people
They initially try to be faithful and by the time they face different forms of heartbreak.. They tend to give up on being faithful.
Another reason is when a person bases his or her love on something before going into a relationship... Because when that thing fades away, he or she will start cheating.
@Dawizy
Because of the temptation of the unknow Because they feel the grass is greener on the other side
Because the get bored of doing one thing over and over again
Sometimes it's because the partners attitude changes
Sometimes it's due to sexual incompatibility
Others do it for the fun of it
Others do it for financial reasons.
Lack of satisfaction from ones partner
No understanding
Lack of trust
@Steemcreed
People cheat in relationship because they are seeking for company and romance
Sexual compatibility outside matrimonial bed
Some cheat because they are looking for the don'ts of marriage
