To my great world Steemit, because every day we are more the question this morning is: Why is it hard for us to be happy ?, What is being happy?
The answer can be varied, but most certainly believe that is to be satisfied with everything, have fun, fully with what you have, but really "be happy is to be calm"
The enemies of happiness are: Fear, shame and guilt
They are the three negative elements that prevent you from knowing who you are. That is why it is so important to accept oneself
It often happens that we imitate the other, it happens that you also want to protect the other, for example "your son", so that everyone accepts it and they want to say "write with your right hand" even if the child likes to do it with the left, there is born the fear of being rejected, the child grows and you continue telling him "to behave well, what others will say" and false beliefs are initiated; "To wash your hands", "to be clean", "do not play with dirt" "Hey do not touch yourself down there that is bad and the child represses himself, does not manifest what he thinks he is taught to be silent, "do not cry that men do not cry" "shut up" and when he grows up he does not know who he is, nor what he really likes, because of so many beliefs that the mother gave him to understand, or in that case the father. And they were learned behaviors.
Because we feel guilty where is born? For things learned, I emphasize again Guilt is a demand of me, and to leave the blame first I must stop demanding me Similarly the great enemy of love is fear, shame and guilt.
I want you to hear me but without judging me. There are many damages. I want you to think without judging me
The advice is to take them into account, not to make them as they told you while they advised you
I want you to trust me but not demand me
Trust is something that happens not that I choose to happen
I want you to hug me without suffocating me, afraid of being possessive, and subtract privacy
I want you to encourage me without pushing me
I want you to protect me without lies, no pious lies
I want you to approach but not invade me. There is a space that to enter you must ask for permission and I decide, because knowing that you have your space will give you confidence that you are still you, but it will also lead to hide things, for fear of rejection of that person you love is that you decide keep you reserved. In short, we are growing, evolving between concepts and beliefs, and the important thing after all is to feel good.
So my friend from Steemit in good time this theme for you !!!
