HARSH TRUTHS ABOUT LOVE (part one)
The problem with idealizing love is that it causes us to develop unrealistic expectations about what love actually is and what it can do for us forgetting the fact that it involves two different minds and ideas.. Let me tell you something:
Love does not equal compatibility: Just because you fall in love with someone doesn’t necessarily mean they’re a good partner for you to be with over the long term. Love is an emotional process; compatibility is a logical process. And the two don’t always work together.
It’s possible to fall in love with somebody who doesn’t treat u well, who makes us feel worse about ourselves, who doesn’t hold the same respect for us as we do for them, who brings out the worst in us, or who thinks about life in a different direction that they threaten to bring us down with them.
It’s possible to fall in love with somebody who has different ambitions or life goals that are contradictory to our own, who holds different philosophical beliefs or worldviews that clash with our own sense of reality.
It's also possible to fall in love with someone who sucks from us like a bedbug. And gives nothing in return.
That said..
When dating and looking for a partner, you must use not only your heart, but your mind. Yes, all want someone that makes or heart feels good and our fart smell good. But you also need to evaluate a person’s values, how they treat themselves, how they treat those close to them, their ambitions and their worldviews in general. Because if you fall in love with someone who is incompatible with you… Well u gonna drown in your own pool
