I learned that you start the love process with yourself first then you can grow it like a garden and grow out to people. When your "garden" merges with other "gardens" it helps all of them grow by adding diversity and strength in numbers.

Just be wary and observant of dead or sick gardens that could infect yours like a blight.

However, if you have a large enough garden you can recover and even help to heal and grow back these sick gardens.