One of the areas where I expect to see shifts, personally, is in non-striving and calmness and sufficiency, and equanimity, when it comes to the habitual/conditioned suffering of people who are near to me, and beloved.
With my partner, in particular, who is often absolutely clenched with this notion that she needs to will things to go a certain way—and failures of achievement seem like failures of will, and of self-discipline, and of character.
This often causes her to be miserable, and to lose a lot of sleep.
"Mindfulness babble", to her, seems like uninteresting hippie woo-woo theory. (Though she's sat through about 50% of a 28-day basics course in an app, which she has found unpleasant).
So, any attempting on my part to approach or engage from a place of "maybe she'll see/understand, and then perhaps suffer less", is going to be met with resistance and rejection. And then there will be sad energy coming up in me.
Rejection energy, on top of clenched miserable energy, is a tense experience.
I'm fine with a little tension, though. But it's clearly an unskilled thing that's going on—this "efforting change in a way which the ground is not quite ready for right now". She is not quite in the right place for the specific nudge. Appropriate attunement is not quite present in my approach.
So, one of the areas where I expect to see shifts, personally, is in non-striving, and calmness, and sufficiency, and equanimity, when it comes to the suffering of people who are near and dear to me, and beloved.
Terracore
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