Hi all Steemians.
I had a talk with a friend of mine the other day, and since I'm curios, I want to know what you think and what you feel about my question!
How do you act. Do you let your feelings or your thoughts decide what is right and how you takle your day and obstacles?
Don't understand the question??
Often you will meet problems or issues in your life when your feelings tells you something and your mind will have another opinion. Or in worst case can you manipulate your feelings with your thoughts.
What about empathy?
Ok, let's use an example.
A friend of you comes too you and tells you hi is worried that something is wrong. He has a really bad feeling that something is wrong with him. He fears he has gotten cancer. He has experienced some family that have died of this. His fear is based on feelings and thoughts. He has not been at the doctor but hi is afraid of dying. His fear is all over the place, he can't sleep, his mode is down, he thinks of all he will loos if he dies.
How to show empathy?
Is it ok not to worry as a friend?
Is it wrong not to share the frightening feeling!
Ok, let's take one way to act.
Thoughts, Well dear friend. You have not been to the doctor and you don't know if you have cancer, so why be afraid? Why let your fear control your life, stop this and live your life to the fullest until you know if you need to make changes or not, it might be nothing so why be afraid.
Feelings: This does not affect me because I dont share the fear. I feel sorry for my friend that feels this way, but it is up to him to loos his fear. Why fear what you don't know.
And the other side.
Thoughts; Dear friend let us cry together, I also share your fear. I feel down, afraid of loosing you, my best friend. What will happen to your family, your wife, your children. How will life go on. Oh... your days must be so hard, I don't know what we should do. I don't want you to die!!
Feelings. Sad heartbroken and afraid.
So if you are one of the above, what does this tell about you. Is the first solution based on a person that has lack of empathy.
What would you want from your friend?
How would you respons to your friend?
Is it wrong to control your feelings with your mind an logic sense!
I was once heard a woman told her husbond that she did not like that he let his thoughts have the most value instead of letting his feelings control. Is that wrong or good? What do you think?