Yes, you know, people always reprimand inconsistent parents, but since there are also inconsistent people outside the lives of children who later become adults, it has just been learned for them that a rejection is not the same as a rejection. Many people can be persuaded if you just keep at it long enough. Of course, it doesn't always work, as you suggest. It can also backfire:) So once you've found that out, you look around for alternatives, like you did. Life always offers opportunities, you just have to want to find them.

Thank you, I'm glad you replied!