True. The violator is never in power as he uses the weakest means between two people to make one obey. ... I don't know if you ever made the experience in your life, that the person who beat you up or beat up your siblings demanded that they should stop crying. It's the most strangest thing to demand from a child who is full of tears because it's beaten up and then must not cry.

When I was in Berlin with the demonstrators and a troop of helmeted and masked policemen walked through the rows and from the stage the police announced that the event was over, I felt the same as I did as a child who was forbidden to cry. It should be noted that back in my childhood I was not physically affected, but "only" a witness to this event, as I had not been beaten.

Tears started to run while I was standing in the crowd of people who did not go away, who stayed and who shouted or sang or raged. But I stood there with tears and I went away and felt like a coward. That was a very undignified moment for me.

On my way through the park I met a woman and told her about it and she said: "That's okay, you were right in going away if that was the way you felt." You see, I am not the strongest person in the room, have my needs and moments where I feel helpless and sad.

So when perpetrators approach me I would cry and I would probably ask for their understanding.